Menstuff® has compiled books on the issue of male friendship.
Ambrose, Stephen E., Comrades: Brothers,
fathers, heroes, sons, pals. This is a celebration of male
friendship, taken both from the pages of history and from this
acclaimed historian's own life. He begins his examination with a
glance inward - he starts this book with his brothers, his first
and forever friends, and the shared experiences that join them for
a lifetime, overcoming distance and understandings. He writes of
Dwight D. Eisenhower, who had a golden gift for friendship and who
shared a perfect trust with his younger brother Milton in spite of
their apparently unequal stations. With great feeling, the author
brings to life the relationships of the young soldiers of Easy
Company who fought and died together from Normandy to Germany, and
he describes with admiration three who fought in different armies
on different sides in that war and became friends later. He
recounts the friendships of Lewis and Clark and of Crazy Horse and
He Dog, and he tells the story of the Custer brothers who died
together at the Little Big Horn. This book concludes with the
author's moving recollection of his friendship with his father.
"He was my first and always most important friend. I didn't learn
that until the end, when he taught me to the most important thing,
that the love of father-son-father-son is a continuum, just as
love and friendship are expansive. Touchstone, www.simonsays.com
1999, ISBN 0-7432-0074-8 Buy
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Greif , Geoffrey L., Buddy System:
Understanding male friendships. Much has been made of the
complex social arrangements that girls and women navigate, but
little scholarly or popular attention has focused on what
friendship means to men. Drawing on in-depth interviews with
nearly 400 men, the author, a therapist and researcher, takes
readers on a guided tour of male friendships, explaining what
makes them work, why they are vital to the health of individuals
and communities, and how to build the kinds of friendships that
can lead to longer and happier lives. Another 120 conversations
with women help map the differences in what men and women seek
from friendships and what, if anything, men can learn from women's
relationships. This book dispels the myth than men don't have
friends, showing that men have must, trust, just, and rust
friends. A must friend is the best friend a man absolutely must
call with earthshaking news. A trust friend if liked and trusted
but not necessarily held as close as a must friend. Just friends
are casual acquaintances, while rust friends have a long history
together and can drift in and out of each other's lives,
essentially picking up where they last left off. Understanding the
role each plays across men's lives reveals fascinating
developmental patterns, such as how men cope with stress and
conflict and how they make and maintain friendships. Oxford Press,
2009, ISBN 978-0-19-532642-0 
The day you need a friend is not the day to go looking for one.
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