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February
Love
Dreams
Everyone has dreams, even the people who say they
never remember their dreams. Dreams are conjured
throughout the sleep cycle however there is a
certain amount of memory erasure which occurs as
the sleep cycle occurs which is why it is hard to
remember dreams in general. Your strongest and most
vivid dreams occur in the Rapid Eye Movement (REM)
cycle which occurs near the end of your sleep
cycle, and these are the dreams you are apt to
remember. When the alarm goes off or you wake up in
the middle of your REM without the normal
transition from REM to the final Delta cycle and
then to natural waking, you are bound to have some
recall of the dreams you were just
experiencing.
Dreams are usually a reflection of your emotions
and the result of the feelings you were
experiencing the day before. Most dreams make
absolutely no sense, but if you try to gather some
of the basic feelings within those dreams, you
might be able to understand them better. Dreams of
love, sex or anger within a relationship can help
you to understand what is going on in your life.
Conversely, if you already have acknowledged your
feelings in your daily ongoings, then you will
understand why you dream what you dream. Some
doctors also believe that your dreams are a way of
expressing emotion which you may have bottled up if
you tend to not express the way you feel to others
easily. With this in mind, dreams can be a natural
outlet for your emotional needs.
To dream of love or of being in love suggests
that you are very happy in your current
relationship. Your life is a bed of roses and you
couldn't be happier, you are even gushing in your
dreams. However, it could also mean that you are
not getting enough of that loving attention you so
desire. You crave that love so much, and think of
it so often, that it is only natural for you to
dream about it. You might also dream about your
lover or spouse. Usually this indicates a good
amount of self worth and acknowledgment of your
union together and your mutual dependency. Dreaming
about your ex-lover is common and very often occurs
at the onset of a new relationship. It simply
brings to the surface any apprehension and hurt
stemming from that old relationship which you fear
may occur again. Another common dream is the one
about your crush. You might be dreaming that this
particular person is desperately in love with you.
Naturally, this is because you have a one track
mind and your constant preoccupation with your
beloved has leaked into your dreams. However, if
you dream that this person hates you or is angry
with you, this just shows you how much you fear
being hurt. This dream also reveals your
insecurities.
Affection in dreams is common. Just as with
love, if you are dreaming about giving or receiving
affection, you might be simply expressing your
contentment in your waking life. If you are in a
very happy relationship, dreams of affection can
fill your night. Conversely, you might not be
getting enough affection and your constant cravings
have begun infiltrating your dreams. To dream of
hugging someone truly represents your caring
nature, the way you take care of and hold someone.
Kissing is usually a good dream and again signifies
your emotional happiness. But have you ever had
that annoying dream when the dream ends right
before you kiss someone? This dream usually means
that you are unsure of the relationship, its
direction and/or its stability. If you have dreamed
about kissing your friend's lover, don't worry.
This does not mean you have deep and unseen
feelings for this person, it merely represents your
desire to be in a relationship. Touching someone in
your dream can mean that you are trying to
communicate with that person or it could represent
your deep emotional bonds with that person.
Most people have had some pretty bizarre sexual
dreams but most of them are also common. For
instance, did you know that an expectant father
often dreams of homosexual encounters? That is what
the experts say. To dream that you are a homosexual
when you are not actually denotes your love for
yourself and your acceptance of all parts of your
life. A very common dream for people is the dream
of making love outdoors and in public. This dream
speaks about some sexual issue in your life which
needs to be addressed. You might be feeling shame
or comfortableness in that area. Oral sex can be a
fun dream. Whether you are giving or receiving,
this dream simply signifies that you enjoy the
giving or receiving. Regular sexual dreams are
often a way for your body to tell you that you are
not getting enough of that loving feeling, but you
probably knew that already. To dream about sex with
someone other than your significant other might
mean there is some dissatisfaction with your sex
life, but usually it is just a harmless and common
fantasy so don't worry. Having sex with your ex in
a dream is also common, especially before taking a
big new step in a relationship. This dream
represents your feelings of anxiety in the new
relationship and maybe even a little fear of
experiencing the same emotional pain that an ex
caused you.
We all go through tough times especially in
relationships. When you are having relationship and
emotional problems you can expect some pretty
intense dreams. And they all are a way to breathe
emotionally and express some feelings that you have
trouble voicing. Common dreams during such times
are dreams of separation which suggest a fear of
separation, dreams of quarreling which suggest
difficult issues that you are unable to get your
mate to understand, dreams of severe fighting which
represent deep emotional turmoil, and dreams of
divorce which symbolize the fear of your
relationship breaking apart. Crying in your dreams
may also be frequent. To cry in your dreams and
have no one hear you cry is a dream which shows how
helpless you feel. Very often, you might even wake
yourself up crying because the emotions are so
strong.
Most people only remember bits and pieces of
their dreams but these small fragments offer a
glimpse into our emotional lives. Try keeping a
small pad and pen by your bed and start writing
about your dream as soon as you wake up if you can.
You can try to understand the dreams yourself by
trying to relate to the mood and emotions you were
experiencing in the dream or you can read up on
that dream using dream dictionaries online and in
books. Dream interpretation is a clever tool for
emotional and relationship self help.
©2009, The Advice
Diva
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Consistency requires you to be as ignorant today
as you were a year ago. - Bernard Berenson
Diva Rebecca
has a long and exciting history of when it comes to
love, dating and relationships. Friends and
associates would come to her for advice and
naturally she became the Advice Diva. Having a
socialite status in the big city she decided to put
her expertise down in writing. The Diva does not
claim to be an expert or have certifications in
this area. She explores her own thoughts and
feelings and uses her own opinions formed through
her own experiences. The
company Advice Through Experience was founded and
she wrote four successful e-books published on the
A.T.E. website aptly named www.AdviceDiva.com
They are
Getting Him
or Her Back,
The Divine
Secrets of the Dating Game,
What Women
Really Want and
For Women
Only: How to be Fabulous!
Diva Rebecca’s website is also
host to an online advice column. The column is
completely free and a fun tool for everyone. She
puts some of the posts online in an anonymous form.
The success of her online advice column has led to
the creation of monthly articles for a variety of
printed and online magazines. For questions and
comments contact The Advice Diva at
E-Mail.
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