The Healing Power of Love, Some Unexpected Surprises

For the past 23 years we have been experimenting with and refining the art of "focused unconditional love". Our application has been centered around healing the emotional wounds of the past and accelerating personal and spiritual evolution. The results have been profound, dazzling and transformational. Yet, there are some unexpected difficulties that many people are unprepared for.

Most people yearn for a state of ongoing unconditional love and acceptance from others. Unfortunately, most people experience this for brief periods of time - if ever. As people clear their consciousness and heal the wounds of the heart they expand their capacity for love and they start to attract people with an expanded capacity for love. The kind of loving that they have yearned for and worked so hard to prepare for has finally arrived. And are they in for a big surprise!

After awhile, they start to experience the limits to their ability to receive the love they have always wanted. Rarely do they recognize that this is happening. Many people have unconscious ways of deflecting love. If you aren't aware of this dynamic you can sabotage your "dream come true."

The thing to remember about love is that it is the Great Healer. It purifies anything unlike itself. In practical everyday relating that looks like love brings up anything unlike itself. That means in the presence of pure unconditional love any remaining issues of undeservingness, fear or limitation will resurface to your conscious level of awareness. For most people that means - YIKES!, some uncomfortable feelings. What is actually happening is the love energy is igniting "transformational tremors" that are moving through your entire body/mind system. In a very real way it is shaking you to your core.

The problem with it is - it just doesn't look cool. I mean, here you are finally receiving the love you have always wanted and then - you start to feel weird. It's a drag. You wish that you could stop it and make the feelings go away - but the only way to do that is to resist the love that has activated the transformational tremors. What a dilemma! Oh, what to do, what to do!?

Well, there is only one smart thing to do. Seize the healing opportunity. Surrender to the moment. Blow your cool! If the love is real it's certainly strong enough to handle your feelings. In fact, the love energy itself is asking you to let go. Let it wash away the remaining fears, hurts, guilts and angers. Let love do its job. Let it take you to a higher level of healing. So, you keep letting go. Love is a balm that soothes and heals all the wounds of the heart. By letting it in you discover at an even deeper level your True Self. You will feel cleansed and refreshed. You will have expanded your capacity to give and receive love another notch. You will feel even closer to your loved ones. You will feel safe and more deeply understood. You will experience greater trust in yourself and others. You will be happier. You will be healed.

So, the trick here is to discover what are your "automatic, unconscious" ways of deflecting love? When people are giving you more love than you can comfortably receive, what do you do? Change the subject? Become the giver? Smoke, drink, eat? Pick a fight? Go numb? Start spending more time at the office? Judging the person who's loving you? We all have our "favorite" ways of deflecting love when it feels like it's just too much, and it is very important to know what those ways are and vow to stop them.

In a new book called The HeartMath Solution, the authors take a provocative look at the heart and its alliance with the mind, body and spirit. They discovered that:

When we love,

the electromagnetic energy generated by the heart (it generates about 2.5 watts of power per heartbeat) changes from a state of chaos, into an ordered, harmonic pattern of waves.

When we love,

this ordered pattern, like a radio wave, effects every cell in our body. Also, the autonomic nervous system that runs the unconscious functions of the body changes from a state of conflict and imbalance into an ordered, efficient, balanced state.

When we love,

many systems in our bodies that were operating independently of each other begin to function together in a state of order and harmony called "entrainment." Entrainment is highly efficient and, except for loving, is usually only found during deep sleep.

And, when we love,

a new form of intelligence, "heart intelligence", is evidenced in our physiological, psychological and intellectual functioning. We are wiser.

We can open to our enlightenment and quicken our evolutionary process by continuing to expand our capacity to comfortably give and receive more and more love. It's the smart thing to do.

©2008, Paul & Layne Cutright

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Lovers know what they want, but not what they need. - Publilius Syrus

Paul and Layne Cutright are marriage and business partners who have been teaching principles and practices for successful relationships since 1976. They are the founders of The Center for Enlightened Partnership (www.enlightenedpartners.com), an online learning and resource center providing e-learning products, teleclasses and coaching. They are authors of the Amazon Best Seller, You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think and Straight From the Heart. They publish a free monthly e-zine filled with inspiration and practical tools for all your valued relationships (www.enlightenedpartners.com/newsletter.html).

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