Strong Men
Strong Marriage

A Marriage Manifesto for Men

Many men are weakened and befuddled by the challenges of 21st Century marriage. We can stand up to the new tests of marriage and face them with strength and strong intention. Here is a statement of principles for married men.

1. We will use our true masculine power and energy to make a good marriage. (No more macho, no more "Sensitive New Age Guy".)

2. We will become 100% responsible for our relationship’s success.

3. We will say what we want and need in a responsible way and expect the same from our spouses.

4. We will never abuse our marriage partners, either verbally our physically.

5. We will not accept male bashing from our women; it’s wonderful to be a man, and we won’t accept that we are broken are “wrong” just because we are a man.

6. We will do our best to listen to our mates and give them our full attention, but we may do it differently than women and with less tolerance for long talks about “the relationship”.

7. We will listen deeply to criticism from our women and take it to heart, but we will not accept abusive attacks.

8. We will take 100% responsibility for our own problems, issues and tendencies and not expect our women to carry our emotional baggage, although we very much value their help.

9. We will do our best to connect with our mates before and during sex, and make it a pleasurable experience for them.

10. We are in our marriages for the long-haul. We know that the grass will sometimes look greener elsewhere, yet we will stay where we are, knowing that marriage is the best vehicle for us to become stronger and more loving individuals.

©2010, Marty Friedman

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Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years. - Simone Signoret

Martin G. Friedman is the author of “Straight Talk for Men About Marriage—What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men)”. For many years, Marty Friedman taught corporate managers how to create good relationships at work before tackling male/female relationship issues--and applying what he learned to his own marriage. The founder of Men in Marriage, Marty is regularly interviewed on radio and television, and talks to organizations and individuals from a unique, inspirational and humorous perspective. Find out more at

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