Assessment for Men in Marriage
To create a long-term relationship you need a
roadmap to follow. Rather than simply reacting to
your mate, it's great to have a core set of
principles and guidelines that guide you along the
way. Here's a simple test that will give you an
idea of what it takes to make a marriage.
Place a Check Mark Next to the Statements That
Apply to You as a Marriage Partner
1. I am 100% committed to keeping my marriage
alive and strong.
2. I listen to the criticism my spouse gives me
so I can hear what she requests or needs from
3. I have a clear and inspiring vision for my
marriage, and I am committed to it.
4. I take total responsibility for my own
internal issues, feelings and blind spots, and I
dont expect my spouse to take care of
5. I listen to understand how my wife feels, and
I dont interrupt or try to solve the problem
6. I stand up for my wifes well-being and
growth, even if I have to challenge her
sometimes--and I expect the same from her.
7. I ask for honesty from my wife, and I give
8. I understand how to connect with my spouse so
she will feel more motivated to have sex with
9. I deal with conflict openly and with
integrity: I stay in the room, try to listen to my
spouse, and attempt to resolve the issues.
10. I openly and constructively communicate my
own needs and feelings (even though I may not do it
like a woman would).
11. I feel like I can be a strong, masculine
person at homenot wimpy or macho.
12. I am OK with my wife being a powerful person
in the world.
Scoring: Total all the check marks.
If you scored 9-12: Good Going! You are a man
who has a great chance to succeed at marriage. Time
to tackle the few questions you didnt
If you scored 5-8: OK, you have a lot to learn,
but theres lots of hope!
If you scored 1-4: You need to get to work if
you want your marriage to last a while. Your
current path may take you over a cliff.
* * *
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is
threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people
together through the years. - Simone Signoret
G. Friedman is the author of Straight
Talk for Men About MarriageWhat Men Need to
Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know
About Men). For
many years, Marty Friedman taught corporate
managers how to create good relationships at work
before tackling male/female relationship
issues--and applying what he learned to his own
marriage. The founder of Men in Marriage, Marty is
regularly interviewed on radio and television, and
talks to organizations and individuals from a
unique, inspirational and humorous perspective.
Find out more at www.meninmarriage.com
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