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Bring It On!
“Bring it on,” I yelled to my kids.
“I’ll pin you both at the same
time!”
“You think so?” my daughter yelled
back. “You’re gonna get what you
deserve!” My son came at me from the front,
while my daughter snuck around behind me. I spun to
the ground, and was assaulted on both sides. It was
only a matter of time before they each had a
shoulder pinned to the ground.
While they celebrated their victory, I planned
my next attack, knowing that the
“results” of the battle were far less
important than the battle itself.
Do you want to be an effective father?
One of the easiest ways to be effective is to
wrestle with your kids. Not only is it loads of
fun, but its’ benefits go a long ways towards
teaching your kids some valuable lessons.
When your child wrestles with you, they learn
many things simultaneously. They learn that you
care about them enough to spend time with them.
They learn that you’re strong, and that if you
wish you can pick them up and throw them out the
window! And they also learn that you can be very
gentle with them at the same time.
Wrestling with your kids allows you to set very
clear limits on what’s allowed. Research has
shown that wrestling with your kids helps them to
develop self-control and to gain more discipline.
When a limit has been violated, you can gently and
firmly let your child know what’s allowed and
what isn’t.
It’s extremely important to wrestle with
your daughter as well as your son. When you avoid
wrestling with your daughter, you run the risk of
showing her that you don’t believe she’s
capable of handling it. She can handle it, and by
doing it you show her you think she’s strong
and capable.
If you have more than one child, you can have
some great wrestling matches with the whole family,
including mom! But as fathers, we’ll often
have a special place in the family as the
“fun, physical guy.” We’ll often be
the ones who show our kids how to play. In this
case, we need to be able to show our kids how to
play “rough.”
Many fathers have wrestled with their kids
because it just “felt right,” or because
they remembered their father wrestling with them
when they were young. They had no knowledge of any
research associated with it or that it had great
benefits for their kids.
So keep looking for opportunities to tackle your
son or daughter and take them down to the
floor!
It won’t be long before your opportunities
are gone.
© 2010 Mark
Brandenburg
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To this day I can remember my father's
voice, singing over me in the stillness of the
night. - Carl G. Jung
Mark has
a Masters degree in counseling psychology and has
been a counselor, business consultant, sports
counselor, and a certified life and business coach.
He has worked with individuals, teams, and
businesses to improve their performance for over 20
years. Prior to life and business coaching Mark was
a world-ranked professional tennis player and has
coached other world-ranked athletes. He has helped
hundreds of individuals to implement his coaching
techniques. Mark specializes in coaching men to
balance their lives and to improve the important
relationships in their lives. He is the author of
the popular e-books, 25
Secrets of Emotionally Intelligent
Fathers
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and Fix
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