Time-Tested Idead on How To Raise Responsible
In a media culture that doesnt promote
responsibility, here are some time-tested ideas on
how to raise children to become responsible
Top Ten Ways to Raise Responsible
1. Start them with tasks and chores when
theyre young. Young kids have a strong
desire to help out, even as young as age two. They
can do a lot more than you think if you have
patience and let them do it their way.
2. Dont use rewards with your kids
If you want your kids to develop an intrinsic sense
of responsibility, they need to learn the big
picture value of the things they do. They
wont learn that if theyre focused on
what theyre going to get.
3. Use natural consequences when they make
mistakes. If they keep losing their baseball
glove, let them deal with the consequences. Perhaps
they have to ask to borrow one for the game. Or,
perhaps they have to buy a new one if its
lost. If you rescue them every time they screw up,
theyll never learn responsibility.
4. Let them know when you see them being
responsible. Specifically point out what you
like about their behavior. This will make it more
likely to continue to happen.
5. Talk often about responsibility with your
kids. Make responsibility a family value - let
them know its important.
6. Model responsible behavior for your
kids. Theyll learn most of their
responsible behavior from you. Remember that they
have a VERY close eye on what you do.
7. Give them an allowance early in their
life. Let them make their own money decisions
from an early age. Theyll learn their lessons
in a hurry.
8. Have a strong, unfailing belief that your
kids are responsible. Theyll pick up on
this belief and theyll tend to rise to the
level of expectation.
9. Train them to be responsible. Use role
play and talk to them about exactly what kind of
behavior you expect from them. Its hard for
kids to be responsible when they dont know
what it looks like.
10. Get some help and support for your
parenting. At times its hard to know
whether youre being too controlling or too
permissive as a parent. Talk to other parents, read
books, or join parent support groups - whatever
will help you feel like youre not alone.
© 2007 Mark
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