Introduction: Fathers Make A World Of
Of all natures gifts to the
what is sweeter to a man than his children?
A new father has arrived.
For millennia birth has been almost exclusively
the domain of women; men had a different more
distant role to play. For the first time in our
history most fathers are participating in the birth
of their children. They are also expanding their
involvement in the modern family. Fathers today
face new challenges because of this. The
information, ideas and tools provided in this
handbook can assist expectant and new dads in their
transition to fatherhood.
You will discover
- Techniques for reducing stress during
pregnancy and birth.
- Modern ways to protect and provide for your
- Information on how to participate more
effectively during the pregnancy.
- Ideas regarding contributing to your
childs wellbeing, even now.
- Guidance for bringing a calm and useful
presence to your partners labor and to the
birth of your child.
- How to take part in building strong and
loving foundations for your child which will
augment their entire lifetime.
- The result is that you will be better
prepared to participate in the most joyful,
satisfying and empowering time of your
Help with all those questions
Once a woman reveals her pregnancy to her
partner, and reality dawns for the man, virtually
all fathers-to-be will ponder the same thing:
She is having a baby.
What am I supposed to be doing?
This book will help you to resolve this and
various other questions like:
- What about sex during pregnancy and the
- What is it like to adopt a more nurturing
relationship with a child?
- When I think about becoming a father I
notice I get anxious. What do I do?
- My father was not so great. How can I be a
different kind of father?
- How am I going to be remembered as a father?
Do I have a choice?
We will consider conception onward to early
infancy through the minds and hearts of the
developing baby, the mother and the father. This
will provide an understanding of how each family
member can be supported, care for each other and
receive the most benefit from every phase of this
precious time together.
You can awaken your natural fathering instincts
as well as acquire the knowledge that will support
your development as a father. A central theme in
this book is to explore modern possibilities for a
fathers role in todays family. You do
not need to be limited by the stereotypes of what a
father used to be or should be. You can decide for
A fathers role is important
The nature of a fathers involvement, from
the start, has significant impact on a childs
development in numerous ways. Where fathers
are involved, breastfeeding is more successful,
post-natal depression reduced, children are more
successful at examinations at 16 and are less
likely to have a criminal record at
There are volumes of research which confirm:
Fathers make a world of
A once in a lifetime opportunity exists, now.
Through research in science and psychology, we now
know that the baby is having significant and
lasting experiences during pregnancy, birth and the
early months of life. They are also aware and
making decisions about these experiences. The
weight of those decisions can influence a
A woman, during this significant and very
special time is birthing a child, a family and our
society. She needs to be protected and provided for
in ways that recognize the importance of her
Men are also having an experience during this
time which deserves to be acknowledged and
supported. Mens experience is different than
womens. Men feel, yet they sense and
interpret feelings differently from women. Men also
reveal and resolve their feelings in dissimilar
ways. Fathers have a particular role to play and
they can benefit greatly from specific guidance and
support, just like mothers.
This book is to inform but also to stimulate an
enquiry. Who are we, how did we come to be this way
and what do we, as fathers, really want for
ourselves and our families?
The research, tools and exercises herein are
designed to help you in resolving concerns or
ambivalence you may have surrounding pregnancy,
birth and fathering. This will result in less
stress for all and increased confidence and
enjoyment for you and your partner.
What is provided here can be used as a road map.
Like any map, this one will indicate numerous
possible routes to use to help you get to where you
would like to be, as a father to your children and
contributor in your family.
Mothers can also derive great benefit from this
book. A simple word change from father to mother
and man to woman will reveal much.
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Houser is a father and a grandfather. His second
son's arrival was the first waterbirth in the U.S.
This led him into nearly 25 years of support for
both choices and working with parents. He has
gained wide experience from various fields
including a degree in marketing, owning a
construction firm and a natural health centre.
Patrick is a Life Coach and co-founder of
Fathers-To-Be, a new concept in antenatal
education, for men. Fathers-To-Be also offers
consulting and training for health service
These articles are excerps from his book
Handbook: A road map for the transition
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