You can give underserved victims of domestic violence a lifeline

Getting people to vote for a community effort is every bit as hard as getting people to contribute cash. Maybe even harder, because so many figure the internet is so big, there are so many people – surely plenty of other people will take the time, and my single vote won’t mean much.

That’s really not true, because in this case especially, we have a small group to begin with. People just don’t realize the extent of the need for this project. Neither do they realize how much one person can do to help it along.

Without going into a complex explanation of how things like blogs, Twitter and Facebook work, what I will say is this: each person voting has the potential to influence hundreds, or even thousands of others. That’s because the Pepsi Challenge has provided several ways for each voter to also engage their blog’s readers, their FB friends, their Twitter followers, who in turn have their own networks of different people.

In other words, you don’t have to know a lot of people online, because you have friends who do.

So, you already know the importance of your help in this, but what is this project, anyway?

Jan Brown says it better than I ever could:

“Studies show that men who are in relationships with abusive partners do not see themselves as victims of domestic violence . Domestic violence has been so narrowly defined in our society that most people, including abused men, believe that it begins and ends with men beating their intimate female partners.

Many men who suffer physical, emotional, psychological, financial, and/or sexual abuse at the hands of their intimate partners do not realize that this, too is domestic violence . They will usually write it off as their partner having a bad day or feel that they must have done something to deserve the abuse.

Further, agencies that offer a myriad of supportive services and shelter to victims of domestic violence do little to encourage abused men to come forward and seek help. Few offer outreach to male victims.

The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women is hoping to change that with the first national public awareness campaign on male victims of domestic violence. We have entered the Pepsi Refresh Project. We are seeking a $250,000 award from Pepsi for our project idea to bring public awareness to male victims of domestic violence. This funding will enable us to send outreach materials (brochures, posters, booklets and placards) about male victims to 7,500 agencies that work with victims of domestic violence across the country.

In order to obtain this $250,000 award we need your help. The public determines, through voting on their favorite project ideas at the Pepsi site, who wins. Please click on this link to vote for our project idea!

Voting goes from Aug.1st to Aug. 31st. Remember to vote DAILY and ask your friends and family members to do the same. Thank you for helping us to bring awareness and services to victims and their families.

Because abused men need awareness and services too.

We already know that this information is wanted and needed. A good percentage of calls to the Helpline come from those very agencies Jan mentions, whose main experience has been working with women. They want to know what they can do for men.

Because of the antiquated laws and policies in place, DAHMW does not get any of the billions of dollars that flow to domestic violence programs each year. They must rely on private donations and campaigns such as Pepsi Challenge in hopes of keeping services for men available.

If this effort succeeds, it has the potential to cause a sea change in the way the public at large sees domestic violence, and thousands of families nationwide could begin to heal.

©2010, Trudy W. Schuett

*    *    *

Trudy W. Schuett is an Arizona-based online veteran with 10 years in cyberspace; an author and multiblogger. She has held workshops on blogging, writing, and promo for writers at the New Communications Forum and Arizona Western College, and has participated in world blogging events such as Global PR Blog Week. She is also an advocate for unserved victims of domestic violence. She is is the author of three novels, two how-to books and eight blogs. Note: Books are currently out of print, but two appear in blog form. She currently publishes New Perspectives on Partner Abuse at She has a video at her site that provides a look into the circumstance of a few men. Entitled, Husband Beaters It is in five parts and was part of the Secret Lives of Women series on the WE network. She publishes the AZ Rural Times and New Perspectives on Partner Abuse , she is on Twitter and Facebook She lives in Yuma AZ, with her husband, Paul. or E-Mail.

Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement
Menstuff® Directory
Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay
©1996-2019, Gordon Clay