America’s War on Families

You’ve heard about the war on drugs, the war on poverty, and other wars on various problems, but are you aware of the War on Families?

Our federal, state, and local governments spend an amount equal to the entire Canadian military budget on this operation every year.

Where there used to be a family made up of a mom, a dad, and kids; there is now a single mom, working full time to support herself and her kids whether she ever wanted to or not, a dad deleted from his children’s lives like some sort of typographical error, and children who will spend the rest of their lives wondering what horrible, bad thing they did to deserve all this.

While people have been led to believe that divorce is a solution; an end to the fighting, for most divorcing families today it is only the beginning. The system we have in place today has seen to that. The tragedy here is that so much of this anguish and pain could have been avoided if only people knew the truth.

That truth is that there are people in this country who do not want families to exist. That’s because a strong family unit can face almost any difficulty, any problem and come through it. Some even come out of it stronger and more resilient than before. These strong families have no need of government programs. They won’t put up with a government official, a stranger to them and their kids, making their major life decisions for them. Families want to make their own choices of where to live, with whom, and how they will support themselves.

Call them progressives, Marxists, feminists, whatever you like, but they all have one goal: get rid of those families so they can take control.

The War on Families is far more successful than any of the other wars I mentioned earlier. That’s because the American people have been led to believe this war is about something entirely different.

This is one of those issues most people think they know about, but unfortunately what they know is a product of several decades’ worth of political maneuvering without much substance.

Since 1984, the United States government has quietly conducted an operation with only one outcome in mind: the destruction of the American family unit. Under the guise of “protecting” women from partner abuse – now called domestic violence by such laws as the federal Violence Against Women Act of 1994, and the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act – many thousands, if not millions of families have been eliminated.

With the current divorce rate at about 50%, about half of all marriages seem destined for failure. This is a very good thing for the anti-family warriors, as it means a never-ending flow of money and personnel to carry out their strategy.

Alumnae of women’s shelters emerge with no skills beyond the gamesmanship of divorce and “working the system,” so all those newly-single moms and fatherless children need endless support from government programs, from infant nutrition all the way to burial at public expense. Many go on to new abusive relationships, having had no instruction in ways to avoid future problems.

You have to go back to the early days of the Communist Party in the Soviet Union to see how this all plays out. If you Google “abolition of the family” you will find a wealth of information, from both pro-communist and anti-communist sources. Some of the material is quite recent, so you can see it is an idea that has endured over a hundred years.

The durability of the concept does not bestow it with any sense of humanity, however. It is as cold and dehumanizing as ever, ignoring the demonstrable fact that human beings have emotions and needs that can never be addressed by any economic system.

Americans in particular have resisted much of the socialist and communist ideology in the past, but this has begun to change. Over the years the anti-family warriors have become adept at cloaking their ugly intentions in a soft fabric of lies that have fooled many otherwise-intelligent people. They use words like “protection and “equality,” while all the time what they are really looking for is submission.

This is the reason why there have never been any changes to women’s shelter programs in 50 years; it is why the lion’s share of that funding we provide through our tax dollars goes not to helping women in distress but to anti-family “education” efforts, to ensure millions of law enforcement and court personnel see partner abuse as a political and gender issue.

It is why the only solution ever provided by these federally-mandated programs is now and has always been divorce, and why they will never give more than lip service to suggestions of reform or improvement.

These programs have nothing whatsoever to do with partner abuse. They are about eradicating the very concept of the family from the public consciousness. It is but a single skirmish in the larger current crusade for our hearts and minds by the progressive/socialist/communist movement, but we can win this one.


That’s the easy part. Just tell the truth.

Both VAWA and FVSPA are up for reauthorization this year, and we can end the War on Families by pointing out the reality of those laws to our legislators, as well as our state and local officials. There is not a state, city, or county in this country that is not directly affected by these laws.

Tell them they are taking our tax dollars to use against us and our families, and you can’t continue to support their other efforts if they let our families be destroyed. These programs do not just affect victims of domestic violence, they affect everybody, because that’s what they are intended to do. These programs have been so effective in their actual purpose that right now almost everyone knows somebody who has been through a bad divorce, accused of domestic violence, or a victim of domestic violence, real or imagined.

Nearly all that trouble for their constituency could have been avoided if they’d only known what the proponents of these programs were up to from the beginning. After all, if you call the fire department when your house is on fire, they don’t come with a backhoe and tear down the house, then walk away while the remains are still in flames, do they? Of course not.

But that’s exactly what these programs do. And that’s all they do.

In these difficult economic times, we do not have the luxury of spending scarce funding on programs that do not function to the immediate benefit of the taxpayer. Allowing damaging programs to exist is foolhardy.

The evidence is clear, on every website and every handout provided by these programs. It is all talk and very little action, and there is still no proof that anyone has actually been helped with the specific issue of partner abuse. After all this time, the successes should be obvious, but there are none.

Can we really continue to fund programs that only provide negative outcomes?

For more detail, including analysis, facts, and figures, visit the Stop Abusive and Violent Environments website and read the most recent report:

“Assaulting our Rights: How Domestic Violence Laws Curtail our Fundamental Freedoms.”

You can be part of an historic Congressional hearing

It’s time to STOP dehumanizing, ineffective VAWA programs!

Since 1994, programs and policies created by the Violence Against Women Act have destroyed countless families and left victims of domestic violence with no practical help, and no possibility of future advances in the field.

VAWA programs are unique among all helping programs as they have not changed in any way in 50 years, yet society continues to evolve.

Because of VAWA, victims of domestic violence and partner abuse literally have nowhere to turn in an emergency, and allowing these programs to continue will ensure they never will.

The VAWA concept of partner abuse is only about advancing a political agenda and not at all about seeking real-world solutions for the families and people affected.

All of this has come at a cost of billions of dollars per year, with no demonstrable return on this investment. It is time to STOP funding a Marxist political agenda and START helping taxpayers get the help they are paying for.

The next VAWA is currently being drafted by the National Task Force to End Sexual and Domestic Violence in preparation for introduction and passage in 2011.

For the first time since its inception, Congress is allowing opposing viewpoints on this issue to be aired at the first hearing.

“The Increased Importance of the Violence Against Women Act in a Time of Economic Crisis”

The hearing was Wednesday, May 5, 2010 at 10:00 a.m. in Room 226 of the Dirksen Senate Office Building.

Scheduled to speak is Richard Gelles, PhD. who is a Dean at the School of Social Policy & Practice at the University of Pennsylvania. He is a leading researcher in the filed of partner abuse from a non-political perspective. His take on the most popular and enduring myths surrounding the issue is here.

You can be part of this landmark event!

Even though you can’t be there in person, you CAN submit testimony to the Committee. It’s simple…just write a concise, polite letter about your experiences with VAWA, and email to Senators Leahy (Democrat of Vermont) and Sessions (Republican of Alabama). It is preferable that your letter not be longer than one page.

Just fill in the missing places in the draft letter below, and email it to:

Anya McMurray (Leahy’s staffer):

Bradley Hayes (Sessions’ staffer):

Send a copy of the letter to: . The deadline to receive your letter is this coming Tuesday, May 11!


RE: Violence Against Women Act

Honorable Patrick Leahy
Honorable Jeff Sessions
Senate Judiciary Committee

Dear Senators Leahy and Sessions:

I am writing regarding the May 5, 2010 Judiciary Committee hearing on the Violence Against Women Act.




©2010, Trudy W. Schuett

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Trudy W. Schuett is an Arizona-based online veteran with 10 years in cyberspace; an author and multiblogger. She has held workshops on blogging, writing, and promo for writers at the New Communications Forum and Arizona Western College, and has participated in world blogging events such as Global PR Blog Week. She is also an advocate for unserved victims of domestic violence. She is is the author of three novels, two how-to books and eight blogs. Note: Books are currently out of print, but two appear in blog form. She currently publishes New Perspectives on Partner Abuse at She has a video at her site that provides a look into the circumstance of a few men. Entitled, Husband Beaters It is in five parts and was part of the Secret Lives of Women series on the WE network. She publishes the AZ Rural Times and New Perspectives on Partner Abuse , she is on Twitter and Facebook She lives in Yuma AZ, with her husband, Paul. or E-Mail.

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