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February
A New Conversation about SEX.
It is probably the most pleasurable experience that
human beings have. It excites us, delights us and
drives us absolutely insane. We write songs about
it, make movies about it, tell lies about it and
even daydream about it. By some accounts men think
about it every 52 seconds. It is the incredible
experience of SEX and nothing gives us more
pleasure and at the same time causes us more
pain.
If you watch our media you should notice that we
are constantly bombarded with images of sex and
nudity. As the saying goes, “sex sells”
and the marketers and advertisers make sure that
they take every opportunity to take advantage of
this adage. Companies use sex to sell everything
from golf clubs to chicken wings and each year the
advertising seems to get more and more
provocative.
With this over-proliferation of sexual images
one might conclude that everyone is engaged in sex
24 hours a day seven days a week. Not only do we
assume everyone is doing it, we also assume that
they are actually enjoying doing it! But if sex is
so wonderful and pleasurable why are so many people
so unhappy with their sex lives? Why is it that
married couples tend to have less sex as time goes
by? Why do people have affairs for sex when they
should have access to all the sex they want if they
are involved in a committed relationship? Why do
men put so much emphasis on sexual conquests as
gauges for their manhood? Why do people have so
much difficulty being honest about how they really
feel about sex and have to lie and make up excuses
for their sexual behaviors and appetites?
Although there are numerous answers to these
questions I have come to the conclusion that there
is one answer that really covers the gamut of most
of these questions.
This one answer is so simple yet so complex very
few people will grasp it’s implication. The
answer is so profoundly simple you probably will
not believe it. If you have ever wondered why men
obsess over sex yet remained unfilled I have the
answer. If you have asked why people have affairs
this will answer that question. If you get caught
up in power struggles over sex this answer will
shed light on the reason why. And if you have ever
wondered why it is so difficult to maintain a
fulfilling sex life I have the key.
Would you like the key that will unlock the door
to great sex? Are you willing to contemplate this
answer so that you can create and maintain a
wonderful fulfilling sexual relationship with your
partner?
Here it is, the million-dollar answer you have
been waiting for. The reason so many people are so
unhappy with their sex lives is because our society
has conditioned us to believe that sex is purely a
physical experience when in truth it should be an
emotional and a spiritual experience! Without the
emotional and spiritual aspect of sex, people will
always feel as if something is missing. It does not
matter if you cause your mate to have powerful
orgasm’s that send shivers up and down her
spine. It does not matter if you have two-hour
erections (dream on) that would make you an instant
star in a pornographic movie. If your emotions are
not involved, sex will always be empty and
unfulfilling. You may experience temporary pleasure
but ultimately if you will really examine your
feelings you will feel in your heart that something
just isn’t right. This is why so many men are
uncomfortable with cuddling after sex. If you are
emotionally and spiritually connected with your
mate then cuddling is a continuation of the sexual
experience. Opening your heart and mind to the
experience will always bring you closer to your
mate. But most of us are very uncomfortable with
this type of openness and vulnerability.
The reason so many of us are unhappy is because
we seek physical pleasure without emotional
attachment and that is a recipe for addiction. In
order to truly experience lovemaking and intimacy
we must be able to feel the energy of love moving
through us as we connect with our mate. We must
learn to open our hearts and expose our true selves
so that our partners can emotionally and
spiritually unite with us. This may sound like
something out of a romance novel but it is an
attainable experience if you focus on the emotional
aspect of your sexual encounters. Most of us are so
committed to “getting laid” and simply
“getting some” that we miss out on the
most important aspect of sex which is sharing
yourself with your mate in the emotional and
spiritual act of lovemaking. The time has come for
all men to learn to make love to our mates and not
just have sex with them.
Although most men will probably not admit this,
we can be terrified of this level of intimacy
because in the back of our minds we may be afraid
to surrender our hearts to the people we love. Some
of us keep up emotional blocks because we are too
afraid to have that type of trust and
connection.
It sometimes seems easier to simply sleep around
with multiple women to prove our manhood but the
truth is we pay a heavy price for this detached way
of behaving. A real man will take the risk and open
his heart because in the end he recognizes that
true love is about openness and surrender. He takes
the risks to love and he is rewarded with love and
connection.
Did you know that you could make love to your
mate and never physically touch them? If this
sounds impossible then you are trapped in the
illusion of physical sex. True love is a function
of the heart and mind and has absolutely nothing to
do with your penis. If you really want to make love
leave your penis in your pants and learn to take
out your heart and share it with your mate.
Are you ready for this new conversation about
sex?
©2009, Michael
Taylor
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Michael
Taylor is a dreamer, revolutionary, an
entrepreneur, author (A New
Conversatoin with
Men), personal
development coach and motivational speaker who has
dedicated his life to empowering men (and women) to
reach their full potential. He does not consider
himself to be an expert or guru. He does consider
himself to be extremely knowledgeable in the field
of personal growth and development. The fact is, he
is an ordinary guy that made a commitment to live
an extraordinary life and he wants to challenge you
to do the same. E-Mail
or www.anewconversationwithmen.com
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