Profile of a Pedophile

Menstuff® has compiled the following information on some characteristics that may profile a person as a pedophiliac.

Profile of a Pedophile
Are all pedophiles men?
Female Pedophiles

Profile of a Pedophile


Pedophiles Can Be Anyone: Pedophiles can be anyone -- old or young, rich or poor, educated or uneducated, non-professional or professional, male or female, and of any race. However, pedophiles often demonstrate similar characteristics, but these are merely indicators and it should not be assumed that individuals with these characteristics are pedophiles. But knowledge of these characteristics coupled with questionable behavior can be used as an alert that someone may be a pedophile.

Characteristics of a Pedophile

Often the pedophile is male and over 30 years of age.
Single or with few friends in his age group.
If married, the relationship is more "companion" based with no sexual relations.
Is often vague about time gaps in employment which may indicate a loss in employment for questionable reasons or possible past incarceration.

Pedophiles Like Child-like Activities:

Is often fascinated with children and child activities appearing to prefer those activities to adult oriented activities.

They will often refer to children in pure or angelic terms using descriptives like innocent, heavenly, divine, pure, and other words that describe children but seem inappropriate and exaggerated.

They have hobbies that are child-like such as collecting popular expensive toys, keeping reptiles or exotic pets, or building plane and car models.

Pedophiles Often Prefer Children Close to Puberty:

Pedophiles often have a specific age of child they target. Some prefer younger children, some older.

Often their environment or a special room will be decorated in child-like decor and will appeal to the age and sex of the child he is trying to entice.

Many pedophiles often prefer children close to puberty who are sexually inexperienced, but curious about sex.

Pedophiles Work Around Children:

The pedophile will often be employed in a position that involves daily contact with children. If not employed, they will put themselves in a position to do volunteer work with children, often in a supervisory capacity such as a teacher, sports coaching, contact sport instruction, unsupervised tutoring or a position where they have the opportunity to spend unsupervised time with a child.

The Target Child:

The pedophile often seeks out shy, handicapped, and withdrawn children, or those who come from troubled homes or under privileged homes. They then shower them with attention, gifts, taunting them with trips to desirable places like amusement parks, zoo's, concerts, the beach and other such places.

Manipulation of the Innocent:

Pedophiles work to master their manipulative skills and often unleash them on troubled children by first becoming their friend, building the the child's self esteem. They may refer to the child as special or mature, appealing to their need to be heard and understood then entice them with adult type activities that are often sexual in content such as x-rated movies or pictures. They offer them alcohol or drugs to hamper their ability to resist activities or recall events that occurred.

Stockholm Syndrome

It is not unusual for the child to develop feelings for the predator and desire their approval and continued acceptance. They will compromise their innate ability to decipher good and bad behavior, ultimately justifying the criminal's bad behavior out of sympathy and concern for the adults welfare. This is often compared to Stockholm Syndrome - when victims become attached emotionally to their captors.

The Single Parent:

Many times pedophiles will develop a close relationship with a single parent in order to get close to their children. Once inside the home, they have many opportunities to manipulate the children -- using guilt, fear, and love to confuse the child. If the child's parent works, it offers the pedophile the private time needed to abuse the child.

Fighting Back:

Pedophiles work hard at stalking their targets and will patiently work to develop relationships with them. It is not uncommon for them to be developing a long list of potential victims at any one time. Many of them believe that what they are doing is not wrong and that having sex with a child is actually "healthy" for the child. (See People magazine.)

Almost all pedophiles have a collection of pronography, which they protect at all costs. Many of them also collect "souvenirs" from their victims. They rarely discard either their porn or collections for any reason.

One factor that works against the pedophile is that eventually the children will grow up and recall the events that occurred. Often pedophiles are not brought to justice until such time occurs and victims are angered by being victimized and want to protect other children from the same consequences.

Laws such as Megan's Law - a federal law passed in 1996 that authorizes local law enforcement agencies to notify the public about convicted sex offenders living, working or visiting their communities, have helped expose the pedophile and allows parents to better protect their children.

Source: Charles Montaldo, crime.about.com/od/sex/p/pedophile.htm

Are all pedophiles men?


No they are not! A pedophile can be a man or a woman. There are undoubtably MORE pedophiles that are men than women, but female child lovers do exist. Part of the reason society accepts this myth is related to the usual male-bashing and refusal to believe anything "bad" about women or their intentions. But women are quite capable of being pedophiles, I suggest if you doubt this you need to look a little more closely at what is going down in the real world. Still, it is true that more men are pedophiles. SOME of the reasons for this disparity are: (1) Women have alot more outlets via easier access to kids which leads to less "desperate" behavior which would be noticable to society at large. A woman can be around kids more easily and not be suspected by our society. A man does this and he is immediately viewed with suspicion. This does not mean they are not there-only that society refuses to believe they are for real, and this helps women pedos get their relief more easily than male pedos. If a woman gives a child a bath, how many would suspect her of arousal? If a man does the same it is much more likely to be considered. Women often get trusting, unchallenged access to these outlets even if they are closet pedos which relieves pressure. Men are forced to use pedo Usenet and illegal pictures to get relief, and many now want this outlet taken away! No wonder men appear more desperate and are caught "acting out" much more often than women! (2) Women often treat kids in a parental role too often for a relationship bond on a mutual respect level to exist easily. Pedophiles are not generally condesending to kids. It is harder for women to become pedophiles in the first place since they frequently view kids as subordinates (early training via babysitting and other traditional patronizing roles of authority instead of interaction without judgements and existing on a relatively equal plane) and this turns kids off who in turn tune women out as partners for relationships and sexual release. Kids can spot a "normal" adult a mile away-they are not stupid. Pedophiles are not really children themselves emotionally, but they still tend to view kids on their level to some extent at least, and women do not view kids this way as often. There may be other reasons for the lesser numbers of female pedophiles, I have only listed two possible causes. In any case, it is true that women do not tend to develop into pedophiles as often as men do. On the Usenet from time to time in alt.sex.pedophilia and other such newsgroups women pedophiles request pictures of young boys having sex with other adult women like themselves and with other kids. 

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