Tears

Menstuff® has information on Tears. I've always found it refreshing to see a massive football player, or boxer or politician shed tears. It shows a humanity that is absent in so many of our politicians today. As General Shawrtnager said, "I never trust a man who doesn't cry." As far as I am concerned, I much prefer someone, male or female, that can allow themselves to publically cry rather than seeing someone get tough and respond "Bring um on."

Tears Not Recommended at Work
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Tears Not Recommended at Work


Sen. Hillary Clinton may or may not have been on the brink of tears in a highly publicized moment on the eve of the New Hampshire primary. And that moment of emotion may or may not have helped her to a come-from-behind win at the polls. But among workplace experts, there is no dispute: Think twice before letting go at work.

"Tears don't work in the workplace," says Nancy Albertini, chairwoman of Patterson & Blackstone, an executive search firm in San Jose, Calif. "People view tears as manipulative. When a person cries, people around them don't know what to do."

Research shows that crying on the job can be far more damaging to a woman's career than to a man's. A study at Penn State on gender and the perception of crying found that both women and men reacted more favorably to men who teared up. And both men and women were looked at more positively when they teared up than when they cried.

One exception: Tears were seen positively in serious situations, such as the loss of a loved one.

Some analysts feel that crying is becoming more acceptable at work. Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire, a New York-based professional recruitment services firm, broke into tears five years ago on a business trip after a succession of mishaps, from losing her luggage to misplacing documents for an important presentation.

"I totally lost it. I had three employees who were right there," Johnson says. "I think they would have had a lot less respect for me if I'd had no reaction. It was only human. You have to let people know you can react naturally to a situation."

But others vehemently oppose crying at work, except in severe situations such as the retirement of a beloved boss or a death in the family. Colleagues may view an employee who cries as weak, manipulative or unstable.

Crying has been in the public eye in recent months. Ellen DeGeneres wept on national TV over the plight of an adopted dog, triggering a backlash of criticism. Emotional displays also have haunted political careers.

In 1972, disputed reports that Sen. Edmund Muskie, the frontrunner for the Democratic presidential nomination, had cried at a campaign stop in New Hampshire derailed his presidential campaign. On Martha Stewart's 2005 show The Apprentice: Martha Stewart, one contestant said she felt like crying, and Stewart responded, "Women in business don't cry, my dear."

The Penn State research, led by psychology professor Stephanie Shields, found that attitudes are shifting, especially since the 2001 terrorist attacks. Compared with the 1980s, when studies showed men's tears were looked at negatively, the newer research, for a forthcoming book, suggests they are now seen as humanizing.

Still, crying is especially damaging today when job security is less certain and there are fewer people shouldering more work, says Nancy O'Reilly, of Springfield, Mo., a clinical psychologist and founder of WomenSpeak.com, an online resource for women on issues such as health and relationships.

The impact of tears varies depending both on gender and on office politics.

"If crying interferes with someone's job description, employers need to take action to get that person back to their very best," O'Reilly says. "An employer may be worried that this is an employee with a problem. Let's face it, everybody's human."
Source: Stephanie Armour, jobs.aol.com/article/_a/tears-not-recommended-at-work/20080118092009990002

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