|
January
Technique #8: Love Women
We all want love. Lots of it. The more the better.
Throughout recorded history, men of all ages have
asked the same question: “How can I get women
to love me?”
Last month, we explored Technique #7: Get Over
Yourself. Here is Technique #8:
Love Women
If you want to be loved by women, love your
woman, and extend your love to all women. If all
women were parts of one fantastic creature, like
ants in an ant colony, or the curves that
collectively make up a woman’s shape, you
would see each woman as representative of something
huge and wonderful, worthy of adoration and praise.
Women are, in fact, connected to something much
larger – the Divine Feminine. This cosmic
force is often referred to as “the
Goddess.” It is the feminine side of every
equation, and it exists deep inside every woman
– from the newborn baby girl to the cute young
girl to the budding adolescent young woman to the
gorgeous maiden in her 20’s to the mature
woman and mother to the elder crone. Other cultures
have recognized this glory of the feminine that
takes all forms. In ancient India, it was called
“Shakti.” She has a thousand other names:
Demeter, Inana, Hawwah or Awa, Dana or Diana, Isis,
Ishtar or Astarte, Aphrodite. This is the Great
Lineage of the feminine, which gave birth to
everything.
It is understandable that the ancients worshiped
the Great Mother. When you see that you came out of
your mother, and so did your momma, and so did
everybody else, you can work your way back to a
Great Mother that gave birth to everything. The
male Gods, and the Judeo-Christian masculine God,
came late on the scene – after tens of
thousands of years of Goddess worship.
Why is this important? Because women want to be
seen for who they really are, behind their everyday
presentation. They want to be seen as beautiful
expressions of the Divine, as they truly are.
Worship is dangerous, of course, because it places
someone on a pedestal, and we know where that leads
– it’s a long fall. I do not recommend
worshipping any woman. It leads to big trouble. I
do, however, recommend worshipping the Goddess that
she is an expression of. If you see past her
physical body, and past her psychological trips,
and past her nonsense and past her habits and her
quirks and her (dare I say it?) shit, and look
deeply into the Source of her, you will see the
Goddess.
When you can see that your woman, who has
suddenly become a crazed bitch or a sobbing puddle
of emotion or a withdrawing child, is merely acting
out one of the many manifestations of the Goddess,
it is much easier to handle. It’s just one act
in a huge unfolding play of the Goddess manifesting
as everything all the time. “Oh Good! I
don’t have to take it so seriously!” You
can even move into an appreciation of its
glory.
Become absolutely fascinated by women, and all
the ways they express their beauty and love and
creativity. And don’t forget to be fascinated
by the dark side of women, too – destruction
and spite, anger and spit-fire, uncontrolled
emotions and complete illogic. Think of the ocean,
which is sometimes calm and sometimes fierce, but
never steady, and always changing. From this
vantage point, you will gain an appreciation and an
understanding of women that few men have. If you
extend your love to THAT divinity, women will love
you for it. They rarely experience that
all-encompassing love from a man, so when they do,
they melt and open to the most beautiful aspects of
themselves. You will be the beneficiary of that.
Ain’t nothin’ better.
When you implement these 14 techniques into your
life, you will be transformed into the kind of man
that women love. Some of these shifts take a lot of
internal work, for example changing some of your
old habits. Some of them are as easy as adopting a
different point of view. Let me know of your
successes and your struggles, your thoughts,
suggestions and additions. I welcome your
emails.
Next month: Care.
©2010 Lion
Goodman
* * *
Lion Goodman
is an executive coach and "evocateur" who helps
individuals create extraordinary success, happiness
and results in their lives. He is a
widely-published author, workshop leader, public
speaker, and a successful businessman. He has
studied and explored the realms of psychology,
spirituality, and business mastery for more than 35
years. He brings these decades of learning and
growth to others through his workshop,
“Everyday Awakening: Practical Techniques for
Waking Up Into Joy.” He is also a co-founder
of The Men’s Tribe in Northern California
which offers men an initiation into principle-based
living. He resides in the San Francisco Bay Area
with his partner, author and workshop leader Anodea
Judith. This series of articles are excerpts from
his e-book, “How To Get Women To Love
You,” which is available on his website:
www.everydayawakening.com
or lion@everydayawakening.com
Contact
Us |
Disclaimer
| Privacy
Statement
Menstuff®
Directory
Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon
Clay
©1996-2023, Gordon Clay
|
