Are You Getting The Love You Want?
- Have you just begun a relationship that you
want to keep?
- Want to resolve longstanding conflicts with
- Want to decide if your relationship can be
- Want to make a good relationship even
Imago is the Latin word for image. Dr. Hendrix
developed the premise that your personal imago is a
composite of those people who influenced you most
strongly at an early age. You find yourself
attracted to people with much the same traits as
your original caretakers. Unconsciously, then,
youll bring unresolved childhood conflicts
into your romantic relationshipgiving your
partner the burden of meeting those needs.
Both members of a couple tend to do this, of
course. And without understanding why their
conflicts arise, many people simply walk away from
their relationship. But for most couples, even a
conflicted partnership has vast potential for
These three days will help you learn:
- Communication skills to improve dialogue
with your partner and find solutions to
- Greater compassion and understandingof
both yourself and your partner.
- Why the unconscious forces that attract you
to each other are also sources of friction.
- How to get unstuck from the
power struggle you are in with your partner
- Ways to re-establish the excitement and
intimacy of your very first months or years
- How to achieve growth and lasting
fulfillmentfor both of you.
Imago Relationship Therapy provides a safe
framework for couples to work through their
conflict and frustrations. Through a series of
communication exercises, partners reach a deeper
understanding of what theyre really
disagreeing aboutand begin to move toward
seeing each other as a friend and an ally. For
couples who want to enhance an already good
relationship, the weekend offers new techniques to
deepen to the quality of their life together.
Through guided imagery and written exercises,
you and your partner can fully share with each
otherperhaps for the very first time.
Youll have new opportunities for bonding
and creating a positive, loving foundation.
Youll witness other couples working on their
relationships, hear them share their insights, and
see how they resolve conflicts.
This isnt group therapy or marital
counseling. Youre invited to participate in a
supportive atmosphere, but never pressured into
disclosing personal information.
Often couples come through the workshop and I
never know what their personal relationship issues
are nor do the other participants.
Emotional safety, comfort, and confidentiality
is maintained throughout the weekend. We respect
These workshops are worth at least three to six
months of couples therapy. Participants
vastly reduce the time it takes to learn various
communication processes, so that they can get right
down to work.
©2009 by Joe Kort
Joe Kort, MA, MSW, has been in practice since 1985.
He specializes in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy as
well as IMAGO Relationship Therapy, which is a
specific program involving communication exercises
designed for couples to enhance their relationship
and for singles to learn relationship skills. He
also specializes in sexual addiction, childhood
sexual, physical and emotional abuse, depression
and anxiety. He offers workshops for couples and
singles. He runs a gay men's group therapy and a
men's sexuality group therapy for straight, bi and
gay men who are struggling with specific sexual
issues. His therapy services are for gays and
lesbians as well as heterosexuals. His articles and
columns have appeared in The Detroit Free
Press, Between the Lines Newspaper for
Gays and Lesbians, The Detroit News, The
Oakland Press, The Royal Oak Mirror, and
other publications. Besides providing therapy for
individuals and couples, he conducts a number of
groups and workshops for gay men. Now an adjunct
professor teaching Gay and Lesbian Studies at Wayne
State University's School of Social Work, he is
doing more writing and workshops on a national
level. He is the author of 10
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