She Texted Me?
A girl in my class recently asked me out via
text message. I responded back that doing that was
kind of disrespectful. She responded "whatever."
That is as far as it went. I'm on break now for a
few weeks. Did I handle that correctly?
Here's the reality: it WAS disrespectful for her
to ask you out this way and that was very likely
based on her insecurity. Thus, when you called her
on it, you actually brought up her very fear - of
being rejected. She equates your view of her asking
you out as disrespectful. Do you see the
Realize that women are terrified of asking guys
out. So are guys too, but frankly, it's our job.
Thus, she went after the only seemingly "safe" way
she could - via text.
If you are interested in this girl, things
aren't lost yet, but you're going to have to act
fast. Here's what you do:
The very next time you see her (find her if you
don't see her right away) walk up to her and say,
"Hey! You know what? I shouldn't have called you on
that texting thing. What was important was that you
made an effort and frankly, I appreciate that. It
had to be tough for you to make that move in the
first place. Let me make it up to you by taking you
out this next weekend."
Now, keep in mind that you have about a 70%
chance of success - and a 30% chance of failure
here. If her ego is so bruised that she can't get
past it, she'll turn you down. At least you can
walk away with your head up having taken the
Bottom line: yes, texting is a very rude way of
asking someone out. I'd never let my guys do it,
but when a girl takes a risk this big (to her) you
should at least appreciate it for what it is. Then,
tell her that you prefer to talk on the phone or in
person because it's the way "real people" act.