How to Get Women to Be Attracted
I came to notice early in my life that treating
women as if they are a goddess is a sure fire way
of losing their interest. You can try to spend as
much with them as possible, call/text them every
day, give them compliments etc. but they will lose
interest and think youre weak.
Recently, I have been more aloof with women
trying not to calling them when they say give me a
call, asking them out once and if they are
"unavailable," not asking them again, trying to get
them to approach me, etc.
None of these attitudes seem to work. I find it
difficult to get a woman to desire me, to approach
me, to call me, ask me out on dates, choose to go
out with me over another man or her girlfriends and
just find it difficult to make myself a priority
Is there a middle ground here or am I missing
I know, I know. It just seems to fly in the face
of logic, doesn't it? We constantly hear women say
they want "nice guys" and then when they get this
guy; they dump all over him - if they'll even give
him the time of day. We see this (wrong) message in
fairy tales and children's stories and even
romantic comedies because the notion is so
pervasive. The realty however is far different.
Being a total scumbag-jackass doesn't work
either, nor does being too aloof or expecting women
to do your work for you.
The reality is this: we are complicated
emotional creatures with an equally complicated
mating ritual. However, the ritual IS there. You
can't circumvent it or change it and expect things
to work. They won't. More on this in a minute.
It helps to understand WHY this is so.
Ultimately, we want the same things; men and
women. We just go about getting it in different
ways. Both men and women have their goals
biologically programmed into them by nature - just
like animals do. Now, we never want to believe that
we're pre-programmed to do anything or that we're
not far more evolved than animals, but this entire
mating game is absolutely the most important
element there is to any organism and the specific
reason why we're here on this planet. After all, if
any species lost this focus, it would also stop
reproducing and would simply go extinct.
We tend to want to use culture to add an air of
sophistication to this whole game. There are
"polite ways" to meet and date for instance, but
there are many, many more of these cultural
"rules". All of these courtesies and niceties
simply are a cultural adaptation to the
foundational drives we all have. You are expected
to live within those bounds - to a degree. It's the
guys that can bend them without breaking them that
get the most attention from women.
Ok, enough science, let's get to your
First of all, you've got to get over the notion
that women will call you and set up dates - at
least in the beginning. It doesn't work that way.
It's YOUR job to do this, not theirs - and they
damn-well know it. In reality, some women are
starting to learn how to do this out of sheer
frustration at the lack of men that know how. I
even have an e-book on my site exclusively for
women to learn these skills, but in reality, it
doesn't change one important fact:
Part of the mating/dating ritual is for you (as
a man) to be the initial aggressor; to be the one
that pursues, and for women to be pursued. Women
need this because of their own internal
programming. It appeals to their need for
attention, and their need to feel safe and secure.
You see, women are biologically pre-programmed to
be with men who's genes will produce offspring that
won't get beaten up on the schoolyard and have
their lunch money stolen. That's an
over-simplification, but I think you get the
So, here's a summary of what you are
* First of all, don't expect women to approach
you. Some will, but ONLY if you could do all the
work yourself and can express that in a way that
women naturally pick up - in their own language.
Women have to be able to SEE this from you in their
own way before they'll take the risk of doing it
themselves. That's because they have all those
pre-programmed biological needs I mentioned before,
and they are effectively giving up those needs
initially when they approach. They still expect
their needs to be satisfied at some point in the
future and if they don't believe you can do this,
they won't bother with you.
* Thus, you need to have all these approach and
pick-up skills under your belt first - AND be able
to communicate that you have them.
* Women won't call you for the first dates.
That's your job, as well as to know HOW to properly
set up dates and make sure she shows. Don't EVER
give your digits to a woman without getting hers
and expect she'll call you. She won't.
* You need to learn how to build rapport and
connection (which leads to both initial attraction
and to feelings of love). Women have to learn these
skills too in order to attract men. Frankly, women
are the lazier sex in this case, thinking that all
they have to be is attractive. I get letters from
women constantly that miss or simply don't know
this all-important point!
* Once you get things rolling (usually with at
least a few dates) you then want to look for a
woman that will contribute back to dating and any
possible relationship! Any woman that doesn't know
to "invest" by this point, just isn't worthy of
You see, you're trying to get women to desire
you and do all your work for you. That's not their
job; at least not initially. YOU have to begin this
process and that's why you're failing here.
I strongly urge you to read my books, "Being a
Man in a Woman's World I & II" and get this
education under your belt. It's not difficult to do
all the things I've mentioned so far (and frankly,
many more) but there's no simple, convenient place
to learn these skills other than by trial-and-error
or via the books. Today, nobody teaches them!
Bottom line: there's no reason why you should be
confused or suffering with a lack of success. The
key element youre missing is just a little