Her Gay Friend
Ok Dr., here is the background for this
- She and I are both in our early 20s.
- We went to high school together.
- We didnt know each other well in high
school, but were acquaintances with mutual
- I started talking to her about two months
ago on a whim.
- She lives far away now but makes frequent
trips back here.
- Keep in mind I have not seen her in person
for 3 years
- I am NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP, JUST a
- She came back once recently and we
didnt meet up, but she is coming back next
month. She said she couldnt wait to meet
up next time.
I used your blitzkrieg technique and
talked to her one day, waited a week, talked again,
waited four days, talked again, a week off, etc.
She replies and asks questions back every time,
HOWEVER she NEVER makes first contact.
When she was drunk she kept telling me via text
(and dont worry, we dont text often at
all) that she is "the most fun I could ever have,
especially drunk." She never says she cant
wait to see me outright, but that she cant
wait to come home, which is understandable. She
also gets very offended when I made the jest "are
you a boringish girl?" It was almost as though she
was out to prove herself as fun. She even went as
far as saying "Didnt you see my club
But, heres the big issue: she is bringing
her gay friend with her when she visits!
They are visiting and I will be the one calling
her to hang when she is here. But keep in mind they
are not coming to see me specifically. It was more
of a "Oh, your coming up for a few days to visit
family? Well lets meet up! sort of thing.
They are driving and he is not from around here, so
she might (and I stress MIGHT) not have a place to
dump him off. I have made it clear that we will be
meeting up alone on several occasions, but how can
I make sure that he isnt there doing the old
block the cock thing? She has pictures of him
online of them kissing and just being close,
typical girl thinks gay guy is cute/adorable type
thing. I think you will have much to say on this
topic, can you ease my mind at all?
Well, I'll say this: you've been paying
attention in class!
By the way - you've been using the challenges
very well to move this forward. Good job! Here's
one more that you might want to try, "I've never
met a [insert some attribute of her's here -
"Philly", "Irish", "teacher", "Catholic",
whatever] girls that knew how to kiss very
well." Then, leave it at that. Challenge
Why would you be calling her to set things up
only when she gets here? Why not have it all
planned instead BEFORE she arrives? Get things set
up so that you already have the date planned and
You need to ask yourself just how "gay" this guy
is! I'm getting the impression that it's not
exactly 100% here. That could work against you.
Here's what you have to keep in mind: HE has her
full attention - not you. Thus, you need to win HIM
over far more than you need to win HER over. If
he's really gay and only a friend of hers, he can
do far more to build you up in her mind than you
could ever do!
Thus, plan on meeting him and becoming the close
buddy! If you do that, he's going to help you out
here. If not, he's going to block you. You should
also have some place for him to go. Look around
town and find a couple of gay clubs. This is a
great place to take them both! He'll have lots of
opportunities to meet some guys and you'll have the
girl mostly to yourself.