Sex Talk

Being a loser in the “romance department.”

Q from a Male, junior at from Drexel wants to know...
I would like to have a girlfriend, someone to be in love with, but I seem to be a loser in the “romance department.” Any tips?

Dr. Caron’s Response: Yes, I have a great tip: In order to find someone to love, you need to find someone you like. Think about what it says: start slow; take small steps. Rather than thinking you are a loser, I suspect you just have not found the right person yet. No one can expect to meet someone and automatically have a dynamic love relationship; it takes time. Begin by finding someone you like.

© 2009, Sandra L. Caron

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Dr. Sandra L. Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the University of Maine. To submit a question to Dr. Caron or chat with your peers visit Got a question for Dr. Caron? Visit and ask away! Get a guaranteed personal and confidential response to your question: or E-Mail

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