Is it normal for a person in a relationship
Q from a male, First Year student from St.
Bonaventure wants to know....Is it normal for a
person in a relationship to masturbate?
Dr. Caron's Answer: Yes. Masturbation
seems to be one of the most widely practiced and
least talked about sexual behaviors. And it
isnt just beginners sex
that kids do until theyre ready for the
real thing. Men and women, boys and
girls, people with a regular partner and those who
are single, heterosexuals and non-heterosexuals,
all masturbate. While some may believe that single
adults are more likely to masturbate, the 1994 Sex
in America survey found that adults with a partner
are more likely to masturbate than those who did
not have a partner. The researchers concluded that
masturbation is not an outlet so much as a
component of a sexually active lifestyle.
Some people worry that if their partner
masturbates, there must be something wrong with
their relationship. However, there appears to be no
relationship between frequency of masturbation and
frequency of sex with ones partner. If fact,
some studies have found that married people who
masturbate have greater relationship and sexual
satisfaction than those who do not.
© 2008, Sandra L.
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It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the
lover. - Marge Piercy
American teens have the worst of all
worlds...Our children are bombarded and confronted
with sexual messages, sexual exploitation, and all
manner of sexual criticism. But our society is by
and large sexually illiterate. Faye Westheimer
Dr. Sandra L.
Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the
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