Having an Orgasm
Q from a female, junior from (undisclosed)
university wants to know...Is it weird for a
woman to be able to orgasm orally but not
vaginally? My friends and I have talked about this
a lot and we all have the same "problem." It
doesnt bother me but I was just wondering why
some do and some dont?
Dr. Caron's Answer: What you describe is
a common experience for many women, in which she
does not get the level of stimulation needed to
reach orgasm from intercourse, but she is able to
reach orgasm through oral sex because it provides
more direct stimulation of the clitoris. Often this
is due to the way our bodies are structured and the
amount of clitoral stimulation received through
intercourse. The problem as I see it is
that we have perpetuated an image of what sex is
supposed to look like and implied that there is
only one right way to reach orgasm.
That is the unfortunate (and weird) part.
© 2008, Sandra L.
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with sexual messages, sexual exploitation, and all
manner of sexual criticism. But our society is by
and large sexually illiterate. Faye Westheimer
Dr. Sandra L.
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