Why Do Women Always Want Serious
Question from a male junior at MIT: Why do
women always want serious commitments? I've never
been able to have just a casual dating relationship
with anyone I've ever dated.
Dr. Caron's Answer: I think it's true,
generally, that many (not all) women prefer
commitment to casual dating relationships. You
should be clear with yourself about what you want
in a relationship. If what you want is a casual
friendship without a commitment, it is important to
be clear about this both with yourself and the
women you meet and date. Sometimes men implicitly
make promises about "always being there" for the
other person without realizing it. Some examples of
"implicit" promises include statements such as,
"You're really special," "I've never met anyone
like you before," or "I can't wait to see you
again." Think through your initial relationships of
the past and see if you have made such promises,
either verbally or nonverbally, in order to enhance
you relationship at the time.
© 2007, Sandra L.
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It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the
lover. - Marge Piercy
American teens have the worst of all
worlds...Our children are bombarded and confronted
with sexual messages, sexual exploitation, and all
manner of sexual criticism. But our society is by
and large sexually illiterate. Faye Westheimer
Dr. Sandra L.
Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the
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