Sex Talk

Penis Size

Question from a senior male student at UCSD: I've always wanted to have a longer penis, my sexual partners hardly reach orgasm, is it the performance or the size of my penis? If the size doesn't matter, how can I improve it? If the size really matters, then what is your advice?

Dr. Caron's answer: Woody Allen once said that he was the only man he knew who suffered penis envy. I think he was wrong. It's fairly common for men to worry about their penis size. Some people have suggested that since the growth of the penis is one of the marks of puberty, somehow the association between penis size and manhood is made. Unfortunately, men's magazine's frequently advertise penis enlargers which exploit male anxieties (and don't work, by the way!). In it's unerect or unaroused state the penis is usually between 2-1/2 to 4 inches. In it's erect state the penis is usually 5 to 7 inches. Some are slightly smaller, some are slightly larger. It's important to know there is no relationship between the size of a man's penis and his ability to have sexual intercourse or to excite his partner. A larger penis will not make a woman have an orgasm any more that a smaller one will. The clitoris is located outside and above the entrance to the vagina. Perhaps talking with your partner about what would feel good to lead her to orgasm (in terms of touching or techniques) would be helpful.

© 2008, Sandra L. Caron

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Dr. Sandra L. Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the University of Maine. To submit a question to Dr. Caron or chat with your peers visit Got a question for Dr. Caron? Visit and ask away! Get a guaranteed personal and confidential response to your question: or E-Mail

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