Sex Talk

In Love in 14 Days?

Question from a female freshman attending Nebraska: I think I'm in love with a guy I met 2 weeks ago. He lives on the same floor in my dorm. What should I do? I know he likes me, too. Should I ask him out?

Dr. Caron's Response: I'm wondering what you mean when you say, "in love." You've only known each other for 14 days. If you mean you find him interesting, that's nice. However, I would proceed with caution. How about starting by developing a strong friendship with him. Since he lives on your floor, you have ample opportunity to see and talk with him. My only worry is that you might rush into something you will regret later. I'd try to take it slow at first and get to know him better before asking him out on a date. Remember, no matter how your relationship develops, you'll still have to pass him in the hall at 7:00am with your bucket of shampoo and toothpaste in hand.

© 2007, Sandra L. Caron

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Dr. Sandra L. Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the University of Maine. To submit a question to Dr. Caron or chat with your peers visit Got a question for Dr. Caron? Visit and ask away! Get a guaranteed personal and confidential response to your question: or E-Mail

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