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Do You Have A
Dream?
Do our pasts dictate that we must remain who or
what we have been? Have you ever wanted to make a
big change in your life? Can you imagine the effort
it takes for an attorney to become a florist, a
house wife to decide to become a veterinarian, or
an ex-addict to lecture and help kids stay off
drugs?
When you envision yourself
in a different role, do you implode cringing in
fear? The following tips may help you make that
important first leap into the unknown, avoid the
embarrassment of failure, and reduce the hooting
jeers of friends and family.
1. Dream. Do you
have a specific dream? Without a dream to carry you
over the rough times, it is hard to be successful
at changing your life for the better. Can you
describe what your day would be like if you achieve
your goal?
2. Vision. Cut out
photos that represent your goal and put them in
highly visible places. If you can see it, your
brain will help you find the way there. Limit your
goals in number because a goal requires 100% effort
and can not afford to be diluted by having too many
conflicting goals at once.
3. Mute. The
greatest resistance to your new you will come from
people who care the most. They do not want to lose
you and will try to keep the status quo. Put their
loving critical voices on mute.
4. Try It On. What
if you started today to just call yourself the
title that goes along with your dream. Today you
are on your way to becoming the next president of
the United States, the fastest man over eighty or
the youngest graduate of college. No one can say
you are not.
5. One Step. If you
really are on your way, what would be the first
little step you could take? Maybe you buy a
notebook, or a pair of walking shoes. Maybe you
have tea, instead of a latte. Maybe you take one
class on the Internet toward a new degree. What is
the next choice of a winner?
6. List. Keep a
list in your pocket or purse. On one side put your
blessings and make a check mark every day that you
can on all that is positive in your day right now.
Your family is healthy. The sun is shining. You
exercised today. On the other side, list your
challenges. Write down the roadblocks that must be
traversed and overcome to move you forward toward
your goal. Next to each challenge, create a baby
step that might resolve or shrink the
challenge.
7. Feel Happy. Take
time to feel each mini success. Let yourself smile,
get chills of excitement, or dance a jig. If you
wait for the resolution of the goal to feel good,
you may run out of steam and quit.
So from this point on, I
am on my way to becoming the new face of Dior Face
Care with a best selling book and a mega web site.
What the heck..dream big! So what about you? What
is your secret goal and your first step to having
what you want.
©2009, Molly
Barrow
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Dr. Molly
Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is
the author of the new book, Matchlines:
A revolutionary New Way of looking at relationships
and making the right choices in
love. She is an
authority on relationship and psychological topics,
a member of the American Psychological Association
and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly
has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in
O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, MSN.com,
Match.com, Women's Health and Women's World. Please
visit: www.askdrmolly.com
or Take the new relationship compatibility test,
Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships
for Singles, Couples and Business at
www.DrMollyBarrow.com.
Molly has a radio program, Your Relationship
Answers at www.blogtalkradio.com/drmollybarrow
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