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Did You Lose Your Job
Losing a job is a very serious blow, especially for
a man or the "breadwinner." When you tell your
spouse that you have lost your job, he or she may
feel like reacting with desperate panic. However,
this is a time to consider the enormous pressure on
a man more than the spouses own feelings. Many men
have their self worth tied closely to their ability
to work and they may be more depressed than they
know. Some men can become so distraught about their
job loss that they may even consider suicide.
If you are the spouse,
even if you feel like screaming, let the poor guy
have a few days to get things in perspective. Let
your partner hear and know that as a team you will
find a solution and that you love them jobless, as
much as you did when they were employed. You may
not really feel it right now but it is a gift that
you can give when your loved one is vulnerable and
feeling too fragile to go on. They are tattered and
beaten up by what happen and you can throw them a
lifeline. Trust that they will do their best to
right the situation as soon as they can.
At first, when something
bad happens, it is really hard to see a rainbow
behind that dark cloud. Remember that one can
always find a better job and a change is usually
for the best. Besides, you can always yell in a few
days when they are feeling better. If by then the
situation has improved, perhaps you won't need to
get upset at all.
©2009, Molly
Barrow
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Dr. Molly
Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is
the author of the new book, Matchlines:
A revolutionary New Way of looking at relationships
and making the right choices in
love. She is an
authority on relationship and psychological topics,
a member of the American Psychological Association
and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly
has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in
O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, MSN.com,
Match.com, Women's Health and Women's World. Please
visit: www.askdrmolly.com
or Take the new relationship compatibility test,
Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships
for Singles, Couples and Business at
www.DrMollyBarrow.com.
Molly has a radio program, Your Relationship
Answers at www.blogtalkradio.com/drmollybarrow
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