Connecting and Networking

I’ve been working in the field of men’s health since my son, Jemal, was born in 1969. I wanted to be a different kind of father than my father had been able to be with me and I wanted to help bring about a new kind of world where males were valued and had joyful relationships with women, children, and other men.

When Gordon asked me to do a column, I wondered whether I could keep up with a weekly assignment. I thought it would be a good excuse for me to communicate regularly with people who might share some of my ideas on men and health. These columns have enabled me to reach out to people and share some of my ideas about what works in life and what doesn’t.

I’ve been working on a new book, The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression for the last 2 or 3 years. I had gotten so many requests to get information out to people I have tried to put some of the information in these columns. I get lots of e-mails from people who have given me feedback on what they have gotten from the feelings and ideas that I’ve shared.

When I began writing on-line back in the early 90s, there wasn’t a lot out there on men and men’s health. Gordon Clay was the first person to bring information to people, both through his traveling book mobile and through his wonderful on-line site Menstuff. Now, the problem isn’t lack of information, but it can be too much information or information that isn’t exactly what we want when we want it.

With this my 30th column, I’d like to take stock. I’d like to know who has been reading these columns. I’d like to know what has been helpful or valuable to you. I’d like to know who you are, male/female, age, background—anything you’d like to share.

I know we are all so busy that it isn’t easy to find the time to send another e-mail out. To encourage some interchange and networking between us, I would like to offer you copies of my most asked about “White Papers” on men’s health, just by writing back and letting me know what you’d like to see in these columns. The value of these special reports is well over $200. Here’s a brief summary:

White paper #1: Why Men Die Sooner and Live Sicker Value, $15

You will get specific, detailed, information on why men die sooner than women and why men have a higher death rate for every one of the 15 leading causes of death. You will also be guided to take specific actions that will help you live long and well.

White paper #2: The 14 Reasons Men Don’t Men Take Better Care of Themselves, Value $15

We all know we should be doing more to stay healthy, but we're not clear about the exact reasons we fail. Learn why taking ourselves is seen as unmanly, we're afraid of giving up control, we are secretly proud of our wounds and much more. Knowing what gets in the way gives us the power to get what we want.

White paper #3: Are We Wired to Worry? What Every Man Needs to Know, Value $15

You will learn about the emotional brain and how it can heal us and destroy us. Find out about the latest discovery indicating there is a "worry gene." Discover why men are often overwhelmed by our feelings and why so many men act and feel like little boys. Learn to stop worrying and start living.

White paper #4: Depression: The Silent Killer of Men--What You Need to Know to Protect Yourself and Those you Love, Value, $20

Find out why depression in men is approaching epidemic proportions and how suicide and depression are linked. Learn about the critical difference between male and female depression and why male depression has been hidden. Discover the differences between dynamic depression and magnetic depressions. Take the depression test to see if you are depressed and learn what you need to do to heal.

White paper #5: The Rings of Addiction: The Seven Stages of Recovery and the Ten Tasks of Mature Masculinity, Value, $15

Learn about the unique system of recover based on the Rings of Addictions and the 7 stages of healing. Find out about the 10 tasks of mature masculinity and see which ones you have completed and which ones are still to come. Discover the nature of all addictions and the two major types of addictions (they aren't what you think). I'll share the 4 key truths of recovery I've learned over the 39 years I have been in practice.

White paper #6: The Rise of Monster Boy Masculinity and the Denial of Male Menopause, Value $15

Find out about "monster boy" masculinity and why it is on the rise. Shame is the root cause of this disturbing trend. Learn how monster boys frighten women and attack men. Discover the ways monster boy masculinity is responsible for the destruction of the environment . Find out why the American father is disappearing and the impact our shifting economic climate is having on the family. Learn what you can do to protect yourself and those you love.

White paper #7: Everything Men Need to Know about Recovery from Alcohol, Cocaine, Narcotics, Steroids, Food, Over-work and Money-Stress, Value $15

Most of us have found it is easy to become hooked on something. Over nearly 40 years I have specialized in helping men overcome addictions of all kinds. You will learn about new ways of getting high, how to reclaim ecstasy and serenity through true spirituality, and why being male has become a competitive sport that no one wins. Finally, I will give you 12 new steps for complete recovery.

White paper #8: The Magic “Pill” That Will Keep You Healthy and Sexy Forever, Value $15

What would you pay for such a pill? What if I told you it was free, was easy to take, and had no side effects. There really is such a pill but it involves something that turns many people off--exercise. I'll show you how to find the program that is right for you and how you can maintain it for the rest of your life.

White paper #9: What Goes on Inside A Men’s Group? Take a Peek Inside A Group That Has Been Meeting Since 1979, Value $15

One of the greatest days of my life, although I didn't realize it then, occurred in March, 1979 when I joined a men's group. We've been together for 25 years. One of the things I am asked by men and women over and over again: "Why really goes on?" Well, I'm going take you inside and give you the secrets of what men really want and need.

White paper #10: Andropause (Male Menopause): What Is This Crazy Thing We’re Going Through?, Value $15

If you're a male between the ages of 40 and 60 (or expect to be) or you're living with such a male, you've probably wondered why your moods go up and down, why you get extremely irritable about big and little things, why your sex life isn't as zippy as it once was. Well, I've got the answers for you. My book, Male Menopause, has been a best-seller and is now translated into 20 foreign languages. Now you can get the benefits of what I've learned absolutely free.

White paper #11: Testosterone and Other Male Hormones: What You Need to Know, Value $20

It used to be that guys only had to worry when his wife was "hormonal." Well, the women have known forever, but we're just catching on. Our hormones are important as well. Did you know that testosterone fluctuates 4 times an hour, that men have monthly cycles, and that when we get older our testosterone can bottom out. Millions of men are now taking testosterone supplements and feeling younger, stronger, and sexier. Find out if you're a good candidate.

White paper #12: Gender Shifting: Why Men Become More “Esty” and Women Become More “Testy”, Value $15

Even tough guys become more gentle as we get older. Think of Marlon Brando as the aging Godfather, cuddling his grandchildren and tending his flower garden. But women get more flinty, assertive, and outgoing. This can be wonderful or a source of major domestic conflict. The shift is based on the biological reality that as men and women age, guys end up with more estrogen in our brains than women. Without the effect of estrogen, women's natural testosterone becomes more noticeable. Learn everything you need to know to keep your passion, power, and productivity through this vital stage of life.

White paper #13: Warriors Without War: New Power for the New World, Value $15

We all know that we live in dangerous times when we seem to be fighting endless battles at home and around the world. We know we don't want war, but we passivity isn't the answer either. I've found that we need a return of the true masculine spirit. In ancient Tibet, the world for warrior translated, one who is brave. The concept was how to confront our inner demons and face the world with strength and peace. When you think of this kind of warrior, think of the Dalai Lama.

White paper #14: From Career to Calling: Finding Our Life Gift, Value $15

For many of us our careers have changed. For some we've done well, but now feel drawn in some other direction. For others, our jobs have disappeared underneath us. For all of us there is a need to connect with, and put into practice, our life's calling. It is the most important thing we do in the second half of life, yet many of us feel confused about what is next. Read this paper and learn how you can find the calling that allows you to give your greatest gift to the world.

Please drop me a note at and I’ll send the link to download your white papers for FREE.

©2010 Jed Diamond

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Jed Diamond is the internationally best-selling author of nine books including Male Menopause, The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing. The 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression. and Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome. His upcoming book, Tapping Power: A Man’s Guide to Eliminating Pain, Stress, Anger, Depression and Other Ills Using the Revolutionary Tools of Energy Psychology will be available next year. For over 38 years he has been a leader in the field of men's health. He is a member of the International Scientific Board of the World Congress on Men’s Health and has been on the Board of Advisors of the Men’s Health Network since its founding in 1992. His work has been featured in major newspapers throughout the United States including the New York Times, Boston Globe, Wall Street Journal, The Los Angeles Times, and USA Today. He has been featured on more than 1,000 radio and T.V. programs including The View with Barbara Walters, Good Morning America, Inside Edition, CBS, NBC, and Fox News, To Tell the Truth, Extra, Leeza, Geraldo, and Joan Rivers. He also did a nationally televised special on Male Menopause for PBS. He looks forward to your feedback. E-Mail. You can visit his website at

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