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Having Sex with a Sleeper


Q from a male, junior wants to know... If I try to have sex with someone who is sleeping, would it be considered rape?

Dr. Caron’s Response: The short answer for most people: Yes. I think it would be dismaying to wake up and find this going on. Perhaps one would think it were fine if this was someone you had a long-term relationship with and therefore an appropriate level of trust exists between the two of you – assuming you had sex before and this was something you both enjoy participating in and have talked about. However, for many, this would be seen as a violation - a clear case of taking advantage of someone who is sleeping – especially if the relationship was fairly new. Where is the consent? You need that in order to proceed. Wake the person

Related Issue: Sleep Assault

© 2010, Sandra L. Caron

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