The end of the newsletter?

I've been writing about finding love after 50 for 17 years and have published this newsletter for more than 10 years. Along the way, there have been three finding love books written and appearances on major network television including the Today show and Good Morning America.

All good things come to an end. It's time to stop publishing the newsletter-at least under the present arrangement.

The five most recent newsletters were written on a cruise ship. It was difficult to generate them from there, but I honored my obligation to do so. Two of the columns were about my observations aboard the ship; that was inevitable--after all--the ship is where Greta and I lived in tight quarters for a month, among 1,500 people, age 50-plus.

Most of the email from you Champs regarding those five columns was positive; you mentioned you enjoyed the change of pace of the stories.

But one woman named Lois felt otherwise. She wrote: "I am 55 and still single. I've been receiving your newsletter for a year and am unsubscribing. I really don't care to hear about your personal life so much, don't find it helpful at all. Finances keep me from traveling as much as you and your 'partner.'

"I have wonderful friends I would rather hear about and don't need to waste my precious time reading about you and your travels when I'll never meet you, don't know you, and honestly don't care to meet your bragging self. So who made you an expert?

"You haven't even been single in 12 ½ years. Stop sending me your self grandizing crap!"

I simply responded, "Thank you for the wonderful words. It is so heartwarming to hear from such a nice person."

I checked to see if she had unsubscribed. She hadn't so I did the honors for her.

Her email didn't bring me to the point I'm about to share with you, but it provided food for thought. I've been pondering this for quite some time for lots of reasons, the primary one being it's too difficult to meet weekly deadlines. There are now things in my life that are more important. So, here is the situation:

  • This will be the last automatic weekly newsletter. Henceforth, I will publish them when I have material that I feel will entertain or be useful to you. Might be once every two weeks or once a month.
  • And if I feel like going off-topic, and want to write about life, or growing old, or retirement, or interesting people, or paying it forward, or white-collar crime, that's what I'll do.
  • Because of this, there will no longer be a charge for subscribing to the newsletter. No one will receive a renewal bill. The newsletter will be complimentary.
  • And perhaps, the name of the newsletter may be changed to more accurately reflect the new scope that it will cover. Haven't decided yet.
  • Of course, you can unsubscribe at any time. Simply click on the "Safe Unsubscribe" link at the bottom.

I hope you Champs continue to respond and share your lives, observations and stories. It is you, after all, who make for interesting topics; I'm just the conduit from you to the other Champs.

Thanks for so many friendships-you know who you are--we'll keep them going.

I hope you had a good Thanksgiving. And that you enjoy the December holidays. You will be hearing from me soon, but just not as often.

© 2010, Tom Blake

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Tom Blake is an expert on dating after 50. He has appeared twice on the "Today Show" and has written more than 500 columns on dating and relationships. His "Single Again" column appears in The Orange County Register in southern California, is read worldwide and is often featured on msn.com. He is a professional speaker. He spoke at the national AARP convention in San Diego in 2002, and in Chicago. His book, Middle Aged and Dating Again, is a humorous account of his first year of dating after his third divorce. His second book is Finding Love After 50: How to begin, where to go, what to do. His latest book is titled How 50 Couples Found Love after 50. To ask a question or receive Tom's free weekly column on middle-age dating and relationships by e-mail, click on www.findingloveafter50.com or E-Mail.

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