Overseas brides-ticket to America?
The seeds of this column were planted in January when Eddie, a 58-year-old widower, responded to an article I wrote.
Eddie said he was fed up with online dating sites and had given up on American women. He revealed his plan to go to Europe to find a bride.
Here are Eddie's precise words (journalists do not edit quotations):
"A friend went to the Ukraine (a part of what used to be the old soviet union) and found a wife of 5 years now whom I have met. All these women are collage educated have a fair to excellent knowledge of english. I have made tentative plans to go there this summer. These women are beautiful and well manered."
What Eddie didn't say is these women are often 25-40 years younger than the men.
I responded to Eddie, "Sounds like it's going to be From Ukraine with Love for you. Just curious, what will these younger, beautiful, well-mannered, college-educated Ukrainian women see in you? True love? Or your money and a paid ticket to the USA?"Eddie didn't respond.
In June, I sent a follow up email asking if he had gone to the Ukraine and whether he'd found happiness and success.
Eddie wrote: "It is in the Ukraine south Moscow Russia on this trip I will be staying the Ukraine I will never set foot in Russia. Unless you count flying over part of Russia. The tickets bought hotel reservations are made and I have the ticket's in my hands in less month I will be in the Ukraine.
"Due to the US Immigration Department this does not take place overnight it could at least 6 to 8 mouths to get a K1 fiancee visa. I think this a good thing. And another 90 days after her arrival for her to adjust to the American way of life. If she cannot she has to leave within that 90 day time period. I will know by August if I was successful or not you can email me again in August."
Last week Eddie sent this update from the Ukraine: "Its going very well better than expected."
So, it sounds like Eddie will be funding his Ukraine girlfriend's trip to the USA.
Women 50+ frequently complain about the lack of available single men. Perhaps Eddie's story sheds light on where some of the men have gone: Overseas to get a bride.
But does doing so pan out for these men? I have three friends who've found considerably younger brides overseas. One woman was Russian, the other Bulgarian. Both divorced the men after becoming citizens. The two men are bitter.
The third situation involving a bride from Thailand is working out so far.
If other men share their acquiring-a-foreign-bride experience, we will write an updated version of this column.
© 2010, Tom Blake