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Break the Pattern of Abusive Women
According to the United States Justice department,
over one third of all "reported" cases of domestic
violence involve a violent woman as the
perpetrator. And, because of the stigma for a man
reporting “his woman" beats him, the number is
probably much higher.
Men who get involved with abusive women are
typically those who had abusive childhood home
environments. This kind of upbringing tends to
normalize abusive behavior in all relationships.
What this means is that men from this kind of a
background are not as keen to the subtleties of
abuse the way “healthy” men are.
On a positive note, there is a silver lining
here—all behavior can be relearned, including
the ability to recognize early signs of abuse as
unacceptable behaviors in a relationship. Once this
is learned, a man will be able to break free from
unhealthy relationships with women who are no good
for you.
Below is a list of common abusive behaviors to
watch for:
- Criticism about your good qualities;
- Past abusive relationships;
- Criminal activities;
- Drinking or drug problems, past or
present;
- Mood swings;
- Discourages your successes;
- Jealousy;
- Abusive family members or spouses of
siblings;
- Attempts to control your whereabouts;
- Disrespect toward your publicly or
privately;
- Violations of others rights;
- Irresponsibility;
- Attempts to keep you isolated;
- Persistent lying;
- History of truancy, delinquency and running
away;
- Highly reactive;
- Streaks of meanness toward others for no
reason;
- Threatened by relationships with
ex’s—past, present or imagined.
- In order to recognize early abusive signs,
you must stop rationalizing “abusive”
behaviors as “normal.” If you see ONE
abusive behavior, regardless of how small, you
needs to remind yourself that it IS abuse.
Period! With this new skill, you will soon be
dating women who treat you with dignity and
respect—the way you deserve to be
treated.
© 2009, ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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Nancy Fagan is
the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's
Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find
Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and
television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS
News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She
has been featured in most major newspaper in the
United States and worldwide as well as regularly
mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as
Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health,
Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle,
Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of
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