Lonely in a Relationship

Loneliness comes from being alone, not from being single. As a matter of fact, people in relationships experience loneliness as often as anyone else. The very definition of this word according to Webster's dictionary is, "cut off from others, sad from being alone, a feeling of desolateness."

Loneliness is a powerful human emotion that is built into us for a reason-people are meant to be together. Without this emotion, what would propel people to maintain friendships, family, and intimate relationships? Not much.

Loneliness can also signal a time of change in your life-in and/or outside your relationship or within yourself and your life. It may indicate that your emotional needs are not being met by the people in your life, therefore, it's time for you to expand your pool of friends.

Keep a chart of when you feel you're most lonely. Common times are evenings and weekends. Make a pact with yourself to get out o the house during those ties. Go to public places where people congregate: parks, church, libraries, bookstores, shopping areas. Join organizations or volunteer. There are so many things you can do to feel needed and to be needed. It's up to you to take the first step and make it happen.

© 2007

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Nancy Fagan is the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle, Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others. To read more, visit This column is reprinted with permission from Send questions to E-Mail

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