Blocks to Listening
Being a good listener takes more than being
attentive to your partner when he or she talks with
you. Instead, the key to strong communication is
knowing the characteristics of a poor listener.
The act of NOT listening is not exclusively a
fault of men; women do it just as often. Below is a
list of common blocks to effective listening:
- Feelings of being right and your partner
- Insecurity about topics that creates
- Silently resenting your pattern.
- Silently or verbally criticizing what your
partner is saying.
- Being preoccupied with other issues.
- Being impatient or not in the mood to
- Rehearsing what you will say while your
partner is talking.
- Jumping to hasty conclusions.
- Dismissing what you hear.
- Racing ahead of what your partner is
- The build up of strong emotions during a
- A dislike for the subject.
- Feeling misunderstood.
The key to effective communication is
identifying when you are doing any of the
roadblocks above and work to change it. Like all
change, it requires practice, but it's possible as
long as you are willing to make the effort.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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