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He Got Her Pregnant
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for
five years and like most relationships, we've had
our ups and downs. However, recently I found out
that he had an affair and the woman got
pregnant—the baby was born two weeks ago. I
talk to both of them and they apologized. I love
him, we share a child together, and I’m
confused. Please help me.
A. You are in a complicated situation.
It's common for women in your set of circumstances
to act out of anger and make decisions they regret
later on. Because you share a child together, you
need to think about what is best for yourself as
well as for your child.
If you decide to forgive your husband’s
transgressions in order to keep your family
together, the two of you need to get into
counseling immediately. This will help uncover the
reason that prompted the affair in the first place.
Affairs are always a symptom of something bigger.
If you choose this journey, prepare yourself for a
bumpy, emotional ride, which, by the way, is the
only way to get the relationship on strong footing
again.
Affairs don't have to be the end of a
relationship. Instead, they can be an opportunity
to grow stronger and closer. The choice is up to
you, but it sounds like you are on the right
track.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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