Stand by My Man?
Q: When I met Mark six years ago he was
married (he still is). Today we share a
four-year-old daughter. Out of the blue he
disappeared and after two weeks of searching, I
found out he was in jail. He didn't contact me
because he wanted to let me know. I am a born again
Christian and I believe people can change and
deserve a second changed. He says he loves us and
promises to help me out when he is released (Nov.
2004). Am I wrong for wanting to wait for him?
A: Love makes people do things that they
regret later on. Wanting to wait for him is a
natural thing--it's your love speaking. However,
it's also an irrational thought.
Being in love, it's natural to make excuses or
accept his excuses for his unacceptable behaviors.
The hardest thing to do is to see him for who is--a
cheater, liar, and disrespectful man with a
If you keep him in your life, he will eventually
treat you the way he currently treats his current
wife--poorly with disrespect and an inability to
honor his vows. If this is the behavior you desire
in a partner, then by all means, stand by your man.
If not-and hopefully not--close that door tight,
head to church and find yourself an honorable man
to respect you and raise your child in socially
acceptable ways in which the two of you can be
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