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Fairy-tale Relationship
Fairy tales have become a part of our image of what
romance is supposed to be like. This image not only
deceives women, but also men. One of the
definitions of the term "fairy tale" in Webster's
is "a made-up story, usually designed to
mislead."
On one hand, everyone knows that fairy-tale
romances are make-believe. On the other hand, fairy
tales inspire us to believe in happy love stories.
For this fact alone, they have given us something
we need for building our own love affair: hope.
Many people have lost hope, and it's time to get it
back.
Modeling Love on Fairy-Tales
Some people think that fairy tales create a
false image for a real partner to live up to. The
next time you read a fairy tale about a love
affair, look to see the characteristics that form
the foundation of these stories. What you will find
are characteristics such as the following:
- Looking for unconditional love
- Wanting to be loved by someone
- Seeking understanding
- Looking to be accepted by another
These stories also show that life is happier
with someone as opposed to being without someone.
What they show is the humanness in having a mate.
People innately gravitate to others for a sense of
completeness. We are relational beings, with a need
to relate to others. In a fairy tale, these themes
are conveyed simply in a fantastical setting. In
fact, fairy tales serve as wonderful models to use
when deciding on what you want in your
relationship.
Regaining a Belief in Fairy-Tales
How can we make romance just as magical as it is
in the fairy tales? All you have to do is create
your own love story, the greatest love story ever
known. This means cherishing the one you love as
though he were a prince or she were a princess. It
means making your relationship a priority by
including romance as one of its basic ingredients.
An apple a day may keep the doctor away, but a kiss
a day keeps others away.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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Nancy Fagan is
the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's
Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find
Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and
television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS
News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She
has been featured in most major newspaper in the
United States and worldwide as well as regularly
mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as
Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health,
Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle,
Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of
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