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My Fits Drove Him Away
Q: I have lived with my boyfriend for 2
½ years. During this time, I have experienced
bouts of temper with this man—I’m the one
who yells and acts like a spoiled child, not him.
He is a good person, gives me everything I need and
tells me he loves me at least twice a day. Sadly,
he’s had enough and asked me to move out. How
do I deal with the guilt, get over him and move
on?
A: Your focus needs adjustment. Rather
than direct your concern away from how to “get
over him” or “moving on,” it needs
to turn toward the reason the relationship is
ending—your uncontrolled fits.
The end of this relationship will not put a stop
to your behavior. Just the opposite, it will
escalate with time, destroying future
relationships. Because of this, you need to explore
what motivates your immature expressions.
Gaining insight is one thing, but applying
change to your well-oiled behavior will require you
to stretch yourself—to fight the urge and go
against what feels natural. People’s
behaviors, both good and bad, are learned.
And...what is learned can be unlearned.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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