The New Intimacy


A Garden Can be like a Relationship

It is a glorious summer day. Earlier we were out weeding our one year-old garden and delighting in the perennials that made it from seed to flowering plant last year--and this year have come back even larger and more lush with blooms. A true miracle.

But no more so than in our close relationships when we go through the seasons with one another, if we but will. In the spring we meet and delight in the newness of it all. And as summer comes along we realize that intimacy is heating up and this new life is demanding more from us. So we set about discovering what the relationship needs to grow more robustly. It may take some effort on our part, we may meet with conflicts and challenges. We may still not feel quite satisfied. Then in the fall, we may feel that we are losing some of our joy and passion, only to realize in the winter that new life and refreshed love requires that we settle in even more deeply.

And then spring arrives once more and all that was developing within emerges with a new force, a new resilience, a new determination to seek larger expression, and summer propels us to take greater risks and so on and so forth as every season changes us and every season moves us into the larger realms that love has always intended for us, if we will just let ourselves go through the seasons together.

Oh dear, we forgot to move the sprinkler. Until next week.................!!

© 2005, The New Intimacy

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Intimacy is spelled "in to me you see". - Stan Dale

I have always made a distinction between my friends and my confidants. I enjoy the conversation of the former; from the latter I hide nothing. - Edith Piaf


Husband and wife psychology team, Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski, are the bestselling authors of "The New Intimacy" and "Opening to Love 365 Days a Year." Their latest book is Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the differences between men and women can be turned into the source of the very best romance you'll ever know. They provide corporate trainings on breaking through resistance to success and relationship workshops about The Magic of Differences--romance based on respect and value for each other's unique ways. As guest experts they've been on over 600 television and radio shows including Oprah, The O'Reilly Factor, 48 Hours, Canada AM, and The View. Visit their website at

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