The New Intimacy


The Blessing of Continually Created Love

Spiritual relationship is about thoughtful practice. It's about being aware of yourself and your partner. When you base your relationship on continually and consciously re-committing yourselves to love, respect, and creativity your maturity and trust will support you and carry you forward. You will enjoy a mutually expanding, inspiring, and stimulating relationship.

You will know you are both part of the intimacy you are creating while remaining whole within your own separate sense of self. You will be alive in one another's consciousness, not as a limit, but as a permanent loving presence.

You will become larger, more competent, and wiser simply from the sheer practice of encountering and integrating the life you are living. You can then more easily accept and participate in the world without needing to dramatize or disown it. With that, you will feel a deep sense of connection. You will come to see the universe as a community in which we are all immersed -- creating a sense of connection that is not sentimental or naive, but a profound experience that we are each part of The All.

Though your relationship will sometimes be difficult, and sometimes even very difficult, it becomes a gateway to more meaningful and richer awareness. You will discover even deeper pools of strength and light as the spiritual purpose of your relationship becomes clearer. Then the mundane becomes sacred. The ordinary becomes alive and blessed. You value day-to-day existence for the miracle that it is. Then, change is divine grace, the occasion through which providence enters your life.

Let the love that lives between you intoxicate you with the miracle of who you are. Open to the goodness that exists in each of you, no matter what form or shape it may take. Leave room in your heart to embrace the darker side as well. Surrender to the force that moves you to care, to feel compassion, to speak over and over that the one you love is so very, very special. And then grace whispers . . .

Let me come to you and I will. Sometimes I will visit you when you least expect it. Other times, you may feel me right around the corner. And at still other times, we will be one. Let me come to you and I will come more and more and more. I may come to you when you tuck your little one into bed or even when you're taking out the trash. I may find you when you're saying good-bye to your dying mother, and bring you the peace you've both so sorely missed.

I may even find you when you're feeling lost and so alone, only to remind you that there is so much more going on in this life than you will ever be aware. And I certainly will be there when you are dancing, your heart radiating life and love. Let me come to you.

© 2005, The New Intimacy

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Intimacy is spelled "in to me you see". - Stan Dale

I have always made a distinction between my friends and my confidants. I enjoy the conversation of the former; from the latter I hide nothing. - Edith Piaf


Husband and wife psychology team, Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski, are the bestselling authors of "The New Intimacy" and "Opening to Love 365 Days a Year." Their latest book is Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the differences between men and women can be turned into the source of the very best romance you'll ever know. They provide corporate trainings on breaking through resistance to success and relationship workshops about The Magic of Differences--romance based on respect and value for each other's unique ways. As guest experts they've been on over 600 television and radio shows including Oprah, The O'Reilly Factor, 48 Hours, Canada AM, and The View. Visit their website at

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