First Dates Should Be More Than Just Light
Many singles seem to think that first dates
should be light and fun. No pressure, no twenty
questions, just have fun and keep things light. In
fact, too many guys are afraid to ask too many
questions to get to know her because they think it
should be kept light and fun. Big mistake!
You are dating because you are looking for that
right woman, right? If you keep the first dates
just light and fun, with very few compatibility
questions asked, you may not know enough to
determine if she is worth a second date or not, so
you land up going on that second date. And then,
how many times did you get a totally different
opinion of her on that second date, or third date?
You could have saved al that time and money if you
had only asked her enough questions, and, paid more
attention to any warning signs she may give off.
First dates can be light and fun, but they are
also supposed to be for knowing if two people are
compatible enough for future dates, too. You can
mix the two together.
And dont be afraid to ask those questions.
Hey, this is your time and money, you know, and if
she cant understand that a couple can do both
on a first date, is she really the one for you?
Dont you want a smart and a mature woman?
Heres another thing to think about: What
if you two fall for one another on that fun-filled
date because you two are physically attracted to
one another while at the same time having laughs,
BUT, you two really arent compatible enough
for future dates?
It happens all the time. Thats one of the
reasons why so many couples get tired of one
another within the first few weeks of dating. They
dont ask one another enough compatibility
Think about it!
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Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles
on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the
author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For
Women About Men. & Women and Sex And
Dating, For The Single Man published by
Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from
complete strangers, to finding that right person to
be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men
and women on what they like and want from one
another. The findings were published in Women,
Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site
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