There are no Accidents!

Q: A woman bumps into me accidentally in the bookstore or the grocery store. I know that means she's interested because of Body Language Secrets! Help!

A: What do you say, right? What to do, right? When she has indicated interest by "accidental" touching, wait a few moments then smile, nod and say, "Finding anything interesting?" Wait.

Make certain your body language is open and relaxed. Make certain there is at least four feet between the two of you so that she does not feel threatened.

She will reply to your question with "No!" (beat it) or "Nah," or "Not yet." (maybe) or she'll say, "Yes," (yes). From there it is up to you to have something to talk about.

In a bookstore, something about the books you like that you think women may like. For example, body language intrigues most people. Celebrity bios are popular with women.

A good self revealing statement followed by a question is best. "I came in here to look for a book on John Wayne and I ended up reading this geeky stuff? I'm a programmer, can't help it. What were you looking for?"

As explained in Body Language Secrets, reveal yourself first, then ask a question. It is important to have some safe, general self revealing lines and general questions for her memorized. That way, the next time she "accidentally" bumps you, you're ready.

As all readers of How To Date Young Women know, Vince Lombardi and I do not believe in "luck." We also believe that if you start out easy you have some place to go from there. Further, I can guarantee you that unless you're as suave as Cary Grant, as handsome as Tom Selleck, or as manly as Paul Newman, don't attempt humor or a flirty remark.

All readers of this column are invited to send me some GENERAL, SELF-REVEALING statements and associated NON-PRYING questions that could naturally follow. If I use them in this column, you get any book at my website for FREE!

STEEL BALLS PRINCIPLE: Reveal yourself with a statement and then ask a non-prying question.

©2008 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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