There are no Accidents!
Q: A woman bumps into me accidentally in the
bookstore or the grocery store. I know that means
she's interested because of Body Language Secrets!
A: What do you say, right? What to do, right?
When she has indicated interest by "accidental"
touching, wait a few moments then smile, nod and
say, "Finding anything interesting?" Wait.
Make certain your body language is open and
relaxed. Make certain there is at least four feet
between the two of you so that she does not feel
She will reply to your question with "No!" (beat
it) or "Nah," or "Not yet." (maybe) or she'll say,
"Yes," (yes). From there it is up to you to have
something to talk about.
In a bookstore, something about the books you
like that you think women may like. For example,
body language intrigues most people. Celebrity bios
are popular with women.
A good self revealing statement followed by a
question is best. "I came in here to look for a
book on John Wayne and I ended up reading this
geeky stuff? I'm a programmer, can't help it. What
were you looking for?"
As explained in Body Language Secrets, reveal
yourself first, then ask a question. It is
important to have some safe, general self revealing
lines and general questions for her memorized. That
way, the next time she "accidentally" bumps you,
As all readers of How To Date Young Women know,
Vince Lombardi and I do not believe in "luck." We
also believe that if you start out easy you have
some place to go from there. Further, I can
guarantee you that unless you're as suave as Cary
Grant, as handsome as Tom Selleck, or as manly as
Paul Newman, don't attempt humor or a flirty
All readers of this column are invited to send
me some GENERAL, SELF-REVEALING statements and
associated NON-PRYING questions that could
naturally follow. If I use them in this column, you
get any book at my website for FREE!
STEEL BALLS PRINCIPLE: Reveal yourself with a
statement and then ask a non-prying question.
©2008 R. Don
Other Relationship Issues,
has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and
cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii,
consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez
live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog
Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The
Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and
Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date
Young Women: For men over 35 -
to Date Young Women: For men over 35,
Volume II, and most
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