Suited for Success with Women
Q: I would be interested to know why you advise
dress for success all the time specifically for
younger women. Just curiosity. This is from a woman
who critiqued my newsletter.
A: Men who buy Body Language Secrets and How To
Date Young Women have read the endless drivel that
passes for 'EXPERT DATING ADVICE' on the www. They
immediately realize that I know something that is
TRUE as well as realistic.
Many of them have no experience. Or they are out
of a long term relationship. They were "not on the
market" while in the relationship thus lost the
ability and the desire to take care of their
Guys who never had a girlfriend know nothing! To
be blunt, most guys dress like slobs, or geeks.
VERY FEW MEN realize that ALL FEMALES instantly
JUDGE men by how they are dressed!
In HTDYW, they are told to get a woman to go
clothes shopping with them. The man is to buy
everything she suggests. He is then commanded to
dress to the maximum that the social setting
permits without over dressing.
That mandate is "all the time," from work, to
shopping, to class, to club meetings. He is to
always look his best! Why? because Ms. Right Now or
even Miss Right might be working as the new teller
at the bank or as the new cashier at the
The requirement to ALWAYS dress for success gets
him back in the mode of caring about himself and
taking pride in his appearance. That is universally
attractive to women of all ages, but young women in
Why? Young women eat, sleep, and dream about
clothes. They are clothes crazy and clothes
conscious thus they are impressed by a man who
knows how to dress. A well-dressed man always
catches her eye!
When she says to herself, "He's well dressed,"
the next thought, "He's successful!" Ta Dah!
It's far easier for a successful man to talk
with a woman of any age! Nerds never get a
As Michelangelo said, "God dwells in the
details," and so does a well-dressed man. It is
difficult for most men to grasp this crucial part
of style and taste about "the little things." So,
Joanna and I have Date Clothes Saturdays and Suit
Buying Sundays once a month in Los Angeles for
members of my on-line discussion group.
A woman's sense of what looks good on him is
what Joanna brings. I bring everything my Dad
taught me from the age of 6! He was a child of the
depression who drove a cab to put himself thru
college. He asked every BANKER who got into his
cab, "Why do you wear that? Why is that important?"
He taught me everything BANKERS taught him!
Successful men have been dressing the same for the
last 150 years. Dark suit, white tie, Windsor knot,
and so on. Thanks for asking.
STEEL BALLS PRINCIPLE: First you must look like
someone she wants to talk with.
©2008 R. Don
Other Relationship Issues,
has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and
cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii,
consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez
live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog
Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The
Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and
Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date
Young Women: For men over 35 -
to Date Young Women: For men over 35,
Volume II, and most
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