Suited for Success with Women

Q: I would be interested to know why you advise dress for success all the time specifically for younger women. Just curiosity. This is from a woman who critiqued my newsletter.

A: Men who buy Body Language Secrets and How To Date Young Women have read the endless drivel that passes for 'EXPERT DATING ADVICE' on the www. They immediately realize that I know something that is TRUE as well as realistic.

Many of them have no experience. Or they are out of a long term relationship. They were "not on the market" while in the relationship thus lost the ability and the desire to take care of their appearance.

Guys who never had a girlfriend know nothing! To be blunt, most guys dress like slobs, or geeks.

VERY FEW MEN realize that ALL FEMALES instantly JUDGE men by how they are dressed!

In HTDYW, they are told to get a woman to go clothes shopping with them. The man is to buy everything she suggests. He is then commanded to dress to the maximum that the social setting permits without over dressing.

That mandate is "all the time," from work, to shopping, to class, to club meetings. He is to always look his best! Why? because Ms. Right Now or even Miss Right might be working as the new teller at the bank or as the new cashier at the supermarket.

The requirement to ALWAYS dress for success gets him back in the mode of caring about himself and taking pride in his appearance. That is universally attractive to women of all ages, but young women in particular.

Why? Young women eat, sleep, and dream about clothes. They are clothes crazy and clothes conscious thus they are impressed by a man who knows how to dress. A well-dressed man always catches her eye!

When she says to herself, "He's well dressed," the next thought, "He's successful!" Ta Dah!

It's far easier for a successful man to talk with a woman of any age! Nerds never get a chance!

As Michelangelo said, "God dwells in the details," and so does a well-dressed man. It is difficult for most men to grasp this crucial part of style and taste about "the little things." So, Joanna and I have Date Clothes Saturdays and Suit Buying Sundays once a month in Los Angeles for members of my on-line discussion group.

A woman's sense of what looks good on him is what Joanna brings. I bring everything my Dad taught me from the age of 6! He was a child of the depression who drove a cab to put himself thru college. He asked every BANKER who got into his cab, "Why do you wear that? Why is that important?" He taught me everything BANKERS taught him! Successful men have been dressing the same for the last 150 years. Dark suit, white tie, Windsor knot, and so on. Thanks for asking.

STEEL BALLS PRINCIPLE: First you must look like someone she wants to talk with.

©2008 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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