She Does Not Call Back

Q: What about women who do not return phone calls? Is it best to play just as hard to get?

A: It depends on how old she is, how much has transpired before you got her number and why you called her. Let’s take one “depends on” at a time.

Depends on Her Age

The non-caller is 28+, okay? One call is all she gets. Strike one and you’re out! She’s an adult. If she wants to play hard to get, let her jerk off somebody else.

The non-caller is under 25. As stated in this newsletter and in How To Date Young Women, giving you her number is not necessarily a good thing. If you were persistent in trying to get it, she gives it just to get rid of you. Thus, when she does not return your call, that’s means she was not interested, or by persisting you ignored my primary mandate and showed too much interest, way too soon, which she translated as follows: “He wants me. I’ve got him. I don’t have to take a chance and go out with an older (very powerful) guy. My ego is stroked. I’m happy and safe. PLUS I have proof that I’m attractive to older guys. I’m a real WOMAN.”

Depends on What has Transpired - Part I

The way you want her to give you her number is after, only after, enough has transpired for the two of you to have semi-set up a pseudo date or a lightweight date. You just need her number to make the final communications and connections.

Depends on What has Transpired - Part II

However, way before that, you are supposed to have given her your interesting, conversation-starting business card [ICSBC] that has your home phone, business phone, and home address on it. That makes you vulnerable. It gives her time to drive by your place to check out your neighborhood and possibly “accidentally bump into you.” Doing this also means to her that you have nothing to hide. You are being open and honest. You are not married or living with someone and trying to use her as she’s read about in Cosmopolitan.

Depends on Why You Called Her

The call must be all business. As, in setting up the time and place or changing the schedule. Any other call scares her to the point of ending it all. NEVER, EVER call just to chat! When in doubt, re-read.

©2008 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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