Her Boyfriend Stays Over on Weekends

Question: 51 year old, reader of How To Date Young Women. She asked me out about a month ago and we had a nice time. She is 36, but her boyfriend stays with her overnight on weekends. I don’t expect to get into bed with her but would go out with her from time to time.

Meanwhile, without me asking anything, she ex-plained that she is just like a “mother” to her boyfriend. She doesn’t want to hurt him but wants to break up with him. I told her she owed me no explanations.

Answer: She’s explaining that she has a boyfriend and asking if that’s all right with you? That means she wants to have sexual fun with you! Your answer was fine. Go out with her as soon as possible.

Question Continued: It’s impossible to get this gal on the phone, you always get the answering machine. Every few weeks she seems to work third shift or something because her car is gone during the night and then there in the daytime.

Answer Continued: Leave her a note on under the windshield wiper. Say, “Can’t get you on the phone. Please call me at work 555-3333 8-5 or at home 555-4444 after 6 and before 10 pm. Jerry. 

When she calls, chat very briefly then suggest or pizza at 7-8 that night, or whenever it is okay with you. If she’s busy, no biggie. Remember, suggest don’t ask. Since you’ve been out with her before this will go easily.

In general, be in charge. Be a man. Be positive. Do not be steeled for rejection! Have a drink before you meet her. RELAX. Don’t try anything. Let her do it at her speed. Be slightly interested. Not much. Don’t talk about computing! Talk about writing your book. Don’t brag, just be confident about what you’re confident about.

 Dress in a sweat shirt, sneakers, baggy pants. Don’t dress up. Dress down for this occasion. You’re so confident you’re not trying to make an impression. Don’t suggest another date while on this date. Read Volume 2 about phone numbers. Carry a pen and a piece of paper. Hand her the pen and the paper and say, “Write down your office number so I can talk with you there.” She will.

©2007 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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