Introduce Yourself Part II
Questions Are introductions, and the way they are
made, really that big of a deal to her?
Answer: Yes! Introductions are crucial. It is
absolutely necessary that they be done right. In
the case of young women "right" means that SHE
feels good, aroused and important. You must not
make her feel foolish or that she's "just a
You must make her feel like an adult and
CAUTION: You must not appear to be coming on to
her. This prevents co-workers from noticing so they
don't tease her or tell her boyfriend. You must
remain adult and businesslike to any and all
observers. Let your touch and your eyes say what
needs to be said. Others cannot 'hear' that
NEXT INTRODUCTION QUESTION: Is it possible for a
poorly-handled introduction to become a deal
breaker in her mind?
ANSWER: You bet your sweet ass! Everything can
be destroyed in about two seconds! She's excited,
yes, but also quite afraid of you! If you scare her
even slightly, THE END!
NEXT INTRODUCTION QUESTION: Is slow and easy
always the best policy when introducing
Answer: Slow and easy is always the best policy
no matter what you are doing with a young women.
LET it happen, don't make it happen.
NEXT INTRODUCTION QUESTION: Should you use only
your first name, or first and last name, or does it
just depend on the circumstances.
Answer: I can speak for social settings in
Southern California and in Hawaii where there are
lots of young people. Use only your first name as
explained in How To Date Young Women for the
reasons given there. When the crowd is of mixed
ages or at work, or at her work, always use your
Using your last name makes you vulnerable and
open first, thus she feels safe! The additional
major benefit is that you are showing her that you
are an adult male, which is DIFFERENT. To quote my
favorite author, "different works." She's talking
with you because she's tired of boys and wants a
MAN. Be a Man.
To be continued
©2007 R. Don
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has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
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