Introduce Yourself - Part III

This is continued from the last two weeks. Check out the archives for this to make sense.

INTRODUCTION QUESTION: Do you think she sees an introduction as an obvious sign of interest and feels pressured by it, or thinks "I've got him."

Answer: She sees you talking to her before you introduce yourself as friendly AND as a sign of your interest! She sees you introducing yourself and shaking her hand as something a Gentleman who is interested in her does. That's different! She does not feel pressured by a Man and a Gentleman being interested in her. It makes her pants wet in the right way.

After you have introduced yourself, to keep her interested and excited, you must have The Right Attitude, the mandatory Right Attitude. Re-read that sequence until it's burned into your brain's memory cells.

AFTER INTRODUCTION QUESTION: One of your Eleven Commandments of Courtship is to not be slick and smooth. How do you tell the difference between being confident and being slick and smooth? 

Answer: Confident people are relaxed and not in a hurry. When a confident man is talking with a woman, he does not flirt with her for quite awhile. When he does, it is very light, gentlemanly flirting. He only compliments her once! He does not try to make her laugh all the time. He does not try to impress her with how attractive and desirable he is. He is not dressed in the latest, hip fashions. He is dressed for success with young women. Every now and then, he lets his genuine excitement show briefly. This is redundant, but essential. The essence of being confident vs slick is to radiate The Right Attitude.

©2007 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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