Bars-Night Clubs

This is from a 43 year old who went to a bar in spite of my extremely strong warning in How to Date Young Women.

Bar Question? A friend of mine plays in a band so I went to this lounge. My friend and I were sitting outside on his break and a woman of 30 walked out and said to a guy, "There's just too many OLD guys in there!" Just before that, I was reflecting on how bad I feel about being 43 with my buddy and that damn sure didn't help.

Would you say this is the rule with bars and to just stay the hell away from them?

ANSWER: Damn! Re-read How To Date Young Women especially the topic, WHERE NOT TO LOOK. If you missed that gigantic warning, you should do what most guys do and re-read the entire book with a highlighter in hand AFTER you re-read the Foreword. Guys get so excited by the prospect of dating young women when they first read it, they miss some key points!

Bars and night clubs are NOT where you can find a young woman interested in an older lover. They are all looking for Randy Redporsche or Harvey HumVee. You are nothing but background clutter in a bar!

Meet young women any-damn-place they are not looking to meet Mr. Rite. Wedding receptions, Sierra Club and Save The Whales type meetings, Walk-For-Hunger, college classes. Stay outta bars!

Learn from my mistakes. When you re-read, you will see that I acknowledge wasting a year plus looking for her in a bar!

ABOUT FEELING 43. It is crucial that you get past this feeling of inequality! You must, and that's an absolute MUST, feel deep in your bones and in your heart that you are attractive to young women BECAUSE OF your age and experience and all of the other things an older man can "bring to the party." Get your copy of How to Date Young Women. Re-read what I say on page 70. Then follow the advice given elsewhere in this issue about re-reading the whole damn book with a highlighter in hand.

If you feel that young women are not going to be interested in you because you are 43, then I GUARANTEE YOU THAT they are not going to be interested in you. Why? Because you will radiate, "I'm not interesting or attractive to young women."

Women of all ages instinctively and automatically react to what you are radiating. It's calledWomen's Intuition and it is for real. (See Body Language Secrets for a thorough explanation of how it works and what you have to do about it.) In How To Date Young Women, I clearly explain how to get past this stage. Why? Because I was there. Worse, I was stuck there for months on end. Do what I say to do in the book! I cannot tell you how crucial this is. Re-read!

©2007 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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