Don Steele   How do I get a Date with a Clerk? There is this girl who works at the Men’s Wearhouse near my home. She helped me pick out a new suit that I really like. I have to go back there tonight and pick up the suit. I think she’s interested. I have to talk to her but I don't know what to talk about. STEELE SEZ: Have her check your taste in ties! Take the suit and go over to the ties. Lay it down. Put a tie on it, study it, stroke your chin as if thinking, walk over to her and say, You did such a good job with the suit, hows about a little help picking out some ties that work with it? (use my wording) She’ll walk over with you. Mention that you are changing jobs and want to develop a better look. (Use my words) Wait a few beats, then say, “Frankly, I dont know much about dressing to be attractive.” (Use my words) Then don’t say anything for a bit. The next thing you say is I’m reading Dress For Success by John Molloy. He says women have kinda of an instinct about clothes. Do you have an instinct for what makes a guy look good? Let her answer that and after shes selected the first tie, ask Why did you pick that one? Let her show you how brilliant she is. That gets the ball rolling. Talk about clothes. Keep your physical distance. Do not check out her tits. During the entire time be alive and energetic. After three ties, say GREAT! Thanks for the help! as you extend your hand to shake. This next sentence is important: Follow the handshake instructions to the letter as given in How To Date Young Women. Don’t forget to say, I'm Chuck Davidson, smile, and wait. She’ll say, Hi! I’m Debbie. Walk over to the cash register. Use your credit card so she sees your name once more. While she's filling out the paperwork, say, What’s it like working here? Let her answer. Then say something like, Going to college? Whatever she says, tell her you are taking Acting 101 at San Jose State, but have to drop the class because you’re changing jobs. Add that you were nervous at first but now you like it. The essence of initial conversations is to reveal things about yourself so she feels free to reveal things about herself. End it all with, "Nice meeting you, Debbie. I'll see you in a week or so. I've got to get some new casual clothes. ©2007 R. Don Steele Other Relationship Issues, Books   Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and steelballsRadio.com or E-Mail. Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement Menstuff® Directory Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay ©1996-2023, Gordon Clay