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Dealing with the End of Love - Part II
Repeated from last week: Your advice was good
regarding my failing situation with my young woman.
But the other women I see do little to interest me.
I’ve been suffering from the usual physical
problems when this happens, like sleep
irregularities, night sweats, loss of weight,
feelings of hopelessness. I know these are symptoms
of depression but I’ve managed to keep
functioning OK without medication. Is this normal
or do other people not feel it as much when their
relationships fail? How do I prevent this next
time? Do any of your contacts have an outstanding
shrink you can recommend in my area? Rich Bell,
Santa Barbara.
Question 2: How do I prevent this next time?
STEELE SEZ: Go to prison and stay there. Or,
become a hermit and you will never be hurt again.
In other words, there is no way to prevent this
from happening again.
This is what happens to a living, breathing,
joyous, loving, caring, happy human beings. We all
get hurt now and then. It hurts so bad because it
felt so good. The higher the up, the lower the
down. The choice is yours. Stay close to the ground
and have empty affairs or soar to the heights of
ecstasy and joy. As stated elsewhere in this
newsletter, everything has its disadvantages. Take
what you want, and pay for it, sayeth God, Spanish
Proverb.
So you got hurt! It will not kill you. I am
living proof! Re-read about my pain and sorrow.
I’m still here. I’m living and loving.
Further, That which does not kill me makes me
stronger, Nietzsche, is the view we all must have.
As I preach in How to Date Young Women, you must
make mistakes to learn. So, Rich, learn from your
mistakes.
However, you must learn the CORRECT lesson from
this one. That is, don’t learn, This woman
hurt me, therefore, I will never again open up my
heart to a woman again. Most men learn that lesson
and then wonder years later why they have such
empty, lonely, angry, bitter lives. As always, the
choice is yours. We are the choices we make.
Question 3: Do you or any of your contacts have
an outstanding shrink you can recommend in my
area?
STEELE SEZ: Sorry, I don’t know anyone
there. Just like with an MD, start asking around
among your friends and associates. I suggested
before, and I say again, find the most expensive
one and you’ll have found one of the best,
probably.
However, shrinks are infamous for being crazy,
even when they charge a ton of money. Trust your
feelings when interacting with him. Have the
courage to go to another if you don’t LIKE the
one you hire. Remember, you are hiring the shrink
to help you with a problem, just like you are
hiring a lawyer to help you with a problem. You are
in charge. If you don’t like what he’s
doing, fire him and hire another.
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