Why Dress for Success

This is from Scott, a successful, independent businessman of 52 who says, "I don't wear ties except at funerals."

Scott went on to say he does not like the mandates on how to dress for success with young women that are aimed at guys just starting out on this magnificent quest in the long, detailed chapter LOOKING GOOD. That's where I explain what I learned the hard way at the very beginning, "Women are clothes crazy. They eat, sleep and live clothes. They are instantly impressed by a well dressed Man."

STEELE SEZ: At your peril, ignore the advice on how to dress well and the impact fashionable ties have on young women. The way a woman's mind works when she first sees you is: "He's wearing a tie, therefore he's successful. It's a fashionable tie, therefore, umm! he has taste. This might be worth taking a chance."

So, Scott, you decide if you want the equation above to function or if you want to be a 50ish guy who knows that you are successful and worthwhile but does not appear like that to a woman when you make that first impression which is a lasting impression. And, you don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

Strongly consider Joanna’s Dress for Successful Dating workshop. She spends 3 days with you and a few other guys making you LOOK like somebody women want to talk with. That is the first step!

WHY WEAR A TIE: In my on-line Steel Balls Discussion Group most new guys object to wearing a tie. Here's the quote directly from How to


Wear a tie is when the occassion makes it possible to do so without looking STUFFY, which is the kiss of death. Daddy's stuffy. Professors are stuffy. Be a well dressed man with style and taste NOT stuffy.

The tie is a phallic symbol! There are 200 years of subconscious learning behind this STIFF advantage you have on guys who opt for a polo shirt or open collar! When the phallic symbol is dark red, not Donald Trump bright red, you let her know on a subconscious level that you are a virile, powerful Man, not a boy.

Women, young women and just about all men equate a suit and tie with POWER AND STRENGTH and BEING IN CHARGE. Boys aren't dressed like that. MEN are. Young women who will date you are tired of boys. They want a Man. Look like a powerful, virle MAN and you the seduction begins when she LOOKS at you.

©2007 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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