Nobody wants to play second fiddle

Question: What did you mean by this? “Come on to one and you ruin it with all the others.”

Answer: At any gathering, including work, once you hit on one woman, all other females know about it within hours, if not minutes. If you are shot down by the first one, no others will have anything to do with you because they do not want to be your second choice.

NOTE: This principle is included in the free video THE X SHOW at briefly mentioned when the host says, “the long walk back.”

That’s why it is crucial to take your time. You are polite and friendly with one and all but you do not flirt with any of them, no matter how blatant they come on to you. The ones who come on quick are game players and Rapo experts.

At any social gathering look the place over. Follow the instructions regarding getting noticed as explained in HOW TO DATE YOUNG WOMEN with the

Do You Know Him Gambit. Use that routine on no more than two candidates.

Women who show signs of interest are the only ones to focus on. Narrow it down to two, talk with each one in a friendly, not flirty manner for about five minutes. As you talk, be aware of signs of interest as shown in the free video TRA EXCERPTS at Then walk away for a while, demonstrating that you have The Right Attitude.

Circulate as you study body language of the INTERESTED women from afar. Notice the emphasis on only interested women? The biggest mistake men make other than not being dressed for success and not having a haircut/style that makes them masculine and manly is APPROACHING THE WRONG WOMAN. Who is the wrong woman? The one with the large breasts, blonde hair and red dress WHO IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU! Why is she wrong? Because you have ruined it with all other women! FOREVER!

©2010 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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