When to Move in with Her

I often hear from guys who are inexperienced or recently divorced. They have followed the advice and are dating older women to gain the knowledge, skills and self-confidence necessary to move down the age ladder and up the beauty scale. The Steel Balls principle they are following is,

The better looking the woman you are dating is, the better looking the next woman you date will be.

Although things are going great, the woman wants to move in after only a few months! The guy hesitates and writes to me.

STEELE SEZ: I understand the desire and need for companionship and sex. That is normal and natural. However, when you start living together, it stunts your growth and stops your progress down the age ladder and up the beauty scale. If you truly want to date YOUNG attractive women, you must have a lot of experience with women who are not so attractive. Then lots of experience with moderately attractive women. Not just one or two or three!

As always, your goals determine your decisions. As I say in Body Language Secrets, everything has its disadvantages. Decide which disadvantage you want. That’s not meant to be glib.

©2010 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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