Dressing for Sexual Success

Continued from last week. The number one Steel Balls Principle is: First you have to look like someone she wants to talk with.

You must look good and dress well all the time if you’re serious. That doesn’t mean jacket and tie. It means wearing tasteful, fashionable clothing, appropriate to the situation.

I suggest you dress as sharply as possible based on what the situation permits. In some settings T-shirts are fine but a henley shirt would not be over dressed but sharper, especially the color you look best in. I get the most compliments in dark green and black. You know what yours are. It gives you an edge. W. C. Fields and I only want “a fair advantage.”

Never, never leave the house without being well dressed even if you are only going to the supermarket. The one time you don’t take those ten extra minutes to look good will be the day Laurie Longleggs is working as cashier, alone, bored and only you to talk with.

Clothes will not make you look younger. She views a man of 40 dressed like a 22 year old the same way you look at a fiftyish woman in a mini-skirt. Besides turning her off, it will cause you to be secretly ridiculed everywhere, including your company.

ABSOLUTE NO NO’S. Brown shoes are worn only with beige or brown attire. Got it? Brown belts, brown socks, brown jackets, brown any-damn-thing, only goes with brown. There are a few exceptions after you have mastered all the fundamentals.

Here are my biggest “don’t’s.”

To avoid looking like a pathetic Sugar Daddy or just a putz, never wear bright colors or anything blatantly polyester. Avoid the rest of these the same way you avoid women who are fat, angry ball busters:

Two-tone shoes including golf shoes, aloha shirts, any hat, ball caps, boxer underwear, white jockey underwear, any undershirt, Bermuda shorts, Speedo brief trunks, patent leather shoes, elevator shoes, high heels, plaid or patterned pants or shirts, loud ties, light colored suits, cowboy boots, muscle shirts, bedroom slippers, sandals, Beatle boots, Wallabys, Top Siders, Hush Puppies, sans-belt slacks, pajamas, jump suits, suspenders, pants pocket handkerchiefs, shawl sweaters, button front sleeveless sweaters, matching warmup suits and any retro attire such as bell bottoms or tie-dyed T-shirts.

Mandatory do-without’s:

Gold chains, pinky rings, gaudy, gold ostentatious watches and rings, gold bracelets.

Time out!

If you’re wearing more than $200 worth of jewelry and accessories, including the wrist watch, you’re trying to impress her with your money. You want her to want you, not what you can buy her. Let the fools driving Mercedes 500 SEC’s behave like that. They’re the ones who must buy her.

Time in!

Any necklace, glasses on a string around your neck, lapel buttons, large belt buckles, half-lens glasses, cell phone, paging beepers, sweat bands or head bands, clip on tie, any tie clasp or tack, calculator watches, shirt pocket-protecting pen holders and any 60’s or 70’s ornamentation like turquoise, silver or beads.

If you doubt any of this information, ask any woman you are good friends with. Don’t argue, just listen and learn from the mouths of babes!

©2008 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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