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October
Habits are Hard to Break
My wife and I have a one year old son named Ashton.
Shortly after he was born I had to make several
different short business trips as a part of my
spokesperson duties.
Each day I was gone I called at least once or
twice. It was very tempting to start off the
conversation with questions about Ashton: "How is
he doing? How has he been sleeping? Is he eating
ok? Is he making any funny faces?" Likewise, it
would be very natural for me to run and pick him up
as soon as I returned home, hold him tight and tell
him how much I missed him. I did neither.
I made a very conscious decision that when I
called Athena and when I returned home, I would
first ask her how her day was, how she was feeling
and let her know just how much I missed her. After
I made sure it was clear that she was my top
concern, then I asked about Ashton or went over to
hold him in my arms.
In those exciting first months of parenthood, it
would have be very easy for me to fall into the
habit of paying close attention to my child and
brush aside my wife to second place. The problem
is, habits are hard to break. What might seem like
a momentary change of priorities often becomes the
norm for years on out. I've noted many parents who
have unknowing neglected the spouse when children
come on the scene.
This does not only happen to parents. Men and
women let other things become priority over their
mate: work, family, friends, household duties, even
hobbies. What might seem like a temporary issue
that needs our top priority, may soon be
permanently elevated above our spouse simply out of
habit.
No matter what new exciting event happens in
your life, make a conscious decision to express
yourself clearly that your mate will come first --
always.
Something to think about...
©2010, Michael Webb
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