Approaching Groups of Women
My question is on approaching a woman who is with a
group of friends. Thanks to your book I could do it
when they are by themselves, but I still can't
approach them when they are in a group, even if I
sort of know them.
This is a place where teaming up with another
guy can make a big difference. Recently we were
running an individualized weekend for a client, and
as part of it took him to a mall to help him learn
about approaching women. We went to the make-up
area of a department store, because there were lots
of pretty women there, all standing around in a
group, not working. The two of us flirted
successfully with the five of them, and created
interactions that could have lead to further
interactions or to phone numbers.
- Approach the group first, the individual woman
second. You can approach a group with your male
friend, and then split up pretty fast. You approach
together, make some jokes, then start to focus more
on separate women. At the store, the women were
together, but they tended to drift back to their
posts occasionally to look like they were working
or to help a customer. As they drifted, we went
with them. We also came back later and were able to
go directly to the women who had been most
- Be playful. It's good to let your romantic
interest be known right away, perhaps saying
something like, "Wow, I haven't seen such a bevy of
beautiful women in as long as I can remember! How
could one store be so lucky to have all of you?" We
said this and they laughed and giggled, as much as
it might make you gag to think about saying it.
- Use your friend to demonstrate playfulness.
One guy showing up and being playful with a group
of women can be too scary for them--none of them
want to get caught up in the playful vibe until
someone else has, so they all might just stare at
you blankly. If you are with a friend, you can both
be playful and jokey, and that gives the women more
permission to get playful with you. After all,
someone else has already joined in.
We did this by requesting free make-up samples,
especially emphasizing each other's need for such a
service. It created a vibe that they could let
themselves get into, because they weren't the
_first_ to get caught up in it.
- Mix up being playful and more "normal." Full
on playfulness will overwhelm your quarry if it
never lets up. We also asked questions like, "Do
men buy makeup? What kind do they buy?" and "What's
your favorite part of this job?" or "Do
crossdressers shop here?"
Remember, your goal in flirting is to leave her
feeling happy and excited about the idea of seeing
you again. Leave while it's still fun, and check
back in with her later.
© 2009, Mastery
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