|
The Window of Opportunity
Q: Hey guys, I have your book, and it's done
wonders for me. (How many times have you heard
that?) My question is regarding the "Window Of
Opportunity" you mentioned briefly in your book. I
had a steady girlfriend recently for 6 months
(using the techniques in your book). While I was
with her I met and flirted with (though never
dated) a few very attractive women. I even got
their phone #'s, and invitations to parties, etc. I
never took these girls up on their offers. I
recently broke up with my girlfriend, and now I'm
starting to think about these women I met while I
was with her. Although, as you've stated, I feel
sort of strange having "known" them for awhile, and
now I'm just starting to actively pursue them. It
doesn't feel quite right to me (almost like dating
your neighbor). Is there a way around this, or
should I start a clean slate and forget about these
girls?
- R.
A: Dear R.,
Great question! Would it be odd to go back to
these girls now, who you didn't pursue when you
were in a relationship? The answer is, NO. Let us
tell you why:
Women are always looking to you for how things
are going in an interaction. This means that if you
are upset, or filled with the concern that what you
are doing is somehow weird or inappropriate, she'll
pick up on that and be concerned about it, too. If
you are confident that it's okay that you are
calling, even after a few months, she'll more than
likely be okay with it, too.
So often men ask us, "When is it appropriate to
call a woman?" The same rule applies--there's no
"set time" you must wait, you must simply be
confident that when you do call, it's the "right
time." Then she can look to you to see if there's a
problem, see that there isn't, and relax
herself.
The fact that you've not called because you are
a faithful guy who keeps his word in a relationship
can actually work FOR you, rather than against you.
What there is to do is call these women, and say
something like "Hi! It's [your name]. It
was really great getting to know you a few months
back, but I have to tell you I never followed up
because I was in a relationship, and was committed
to keeping my word and being faithful to the woman
I was with. That ended a little while ago, and, if
you are open to it, I think it might be fun if we
got together for a cup of coffee sometime. How does
that sound to you?" From there you set up a coffee
date, and you are off to the races!
And if it's any help, we've interviewed women
and asked them, "would it seem weird to you if a
guy called a few months after getting your number,"
and the answer was almost uniformly some variation
on "Not if it wasn't weird for him."
Best of luck!
© 2010, Mastery
Technologies, Inc.
Other Relationship Issues,
Books
* * *
We must try to trust one another. Stay and
cooperate. - Jomo Kenyatta
Ron
Louis and David Copeland are the authors of
How
to Succeed with
Women, The Sex
Lover's Book of Lists, and The Mastery
Program audio course. Send them those seduction
questions: questions@howtosucceedwithwomen.com
You're question may be used in the next newsletter!
Subscribe to their Free
newsletter 
for tons of Free seduction information. Type in
your email address, and click on "subscribe," then
click on submit! See a sample from The
Rules For Getting
Laid and a review on
Amazon.com
or the tape
series. Also, check out
their web site www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com
and see a review
of their book.
Contact
Us |
Disclaimer
| Privacy
Statement
Menstuff®
Directory
Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon
Clay
©1996-2023, Gordon Clay
|
